It could be worse.
"See how he treats his mother and this is how he'll treat you" or something like that, is how the old saying goes. If he shows you lots of affection, his mother is probably where he learned it from.
Sometimes 'too much' affection depends on how you, yourself, were brought up. If you were not particularly affectionate with your folks, this may seem a bit weird bordering on the obscene.
You don't say where you're from originally but in DR. my extended family, with few exceptions, show our love for one another overtly. Nothing strange or morally offensive about it.
But I see your point.The situation you describe is of a meddling mother-in-law that does not know when to stop worming into the relationship that you and her son have.
His mother must be made to understand that her 'little boy' has grown and now has a different woman in his life. But the bigger problem here is that YOU must make it clear to your fiancé that HE needs to talk to his mother about her intrusion in your lives, not you.
Depending on how he responds to your request is what will determine the outcome of this difficult and troubling situation you find yourself in.
If he has any common sense, he'll see what it's doing to you and have the 'talk'. If not, things will always continue 'as is' and you will have to decide if he's worth the price of an ever-present, interfering, pain in the butt for the rest of your life. Good luck.
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