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Originally Posted by jodyroll
Was your post in jest badpiece33?
You can't honestly believe that a person who could so intentionally deceive another in that way actually loves that person.
If he really loved her, why did he not delay marrying her until after he had divorced his first wife? Why did he trick her into the second ceremony? The breach of trust is huge, and he knew trust was an important element of any relationship for her.
Who does that to someone they love?
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Funny but I agree with both of you..
It might be worthwhile to note that they were happy together and that he tried to make his affairs in order even if it was after the fact.. imo this is proven by his church wedding with her in the DR in front of his community, his church and God.. this is a significant event and not some gringo-style resort wedding.. he prolly felt at that time that he had finally made it and they would be home free..
In the DR, obtaining a divorce and going away with your gringa to make a better life for yourself, might come with promises to take care of the kids and pay-offs to the future ex-wife (hence her confirmation that they where separated), etc, etc.. it is not simple to get things done..
He prolly was very embarressed and ashamed of this situation and thus hid it from his new wife..
On the other hand I can understand the trust issues she is having but the above might give her some consolation ad points to ponder..
I really do feel that more thought should be given to this situation than the reaction 'he violated my trust'.. on the other hand he should give her some time to come to terms with what really happened, understanding her POV.