My suggestion would be for you to go to DR for a few months and get to know her and her family on a daily basis.
Is it possible for the relationship to work? My answer would be a cautious "yes"
Discuss with her every possible subject, find out what her beliefs and expectations are, tell her what yours are as well.
Remember your big heart could get you in trouble if it does not work simultaneously with your brain.
Discuss with her some of the following themes:
1.-We have the "obligation" to pursue happiness and be happy, for otherwise,
we will tend to make live miserable for all those around us.
2.-Refuse to live in a "valley of Tears"
3.-Face personal and family tragedy only if and when it occurs.
4.-Do not depend excessively on others.
5.-Have or create your own space and respect that of others as well.
6.-Don't be possessive with others and don't let others be possessive with
you.
7.-You don't need 100 umbrellas for a "rainy day"
8.-Life is too short to live it in fear.
9.-Remember (or learn about) our insignificant size and importance within
the known universe. If you don't, you are already paying too high of a
price.
10.-Life, and its interpretation, is not according to you or me.
11.-Learn about other cultures, you don't have to adopt them, but be
tolerant.
And finally, remember: you are the only creator and/or master of your own destiny.
Best of luck
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