I don't know about the whole Dominican man thing, but I'll answer your second question, whether you have a good basis to be concerned. Yes, a very good basis.
I think his controlling behaviour is VERY problematic, I mean staying out til whenever and then getting angry when you do the same. That's just an insecure man. Period.
3 children? How old is he? I guess it's a little late to think about that now, but whenever I date anyone, I try to avoid men with children. At my age and at your age, you don't need to be dealing with that kind of drama.
That's great that he pays the bills, but are you willing to overlook all his flaws because of this?
If he disrespects you on ANY occasion, he is not worthy of your time. Why would he be disrespecting you, the mother of his child? Ridiculous. If he is disrespecting you, he needs to be dismissed from your life.
I have nothing against bars, but 3 times a week? Why? And if he is into going out to bars, why aren't you with him on some of these occasions? Why does it have to be without you? Just because he pays the bills does not mean he just does whatever he pleases, he has responsiblities now (hence your child together)
You both come from different cultures, but if he can't meet you halfway, then he is plain selfish. Selfish people are worthless and even more worthless as someone else's life partner.
I don't think this is about preconceived notions about Dominican men, this is about whether or not his behaviour should make you worried, and it should. Don't ignore signs for fears of not being politically correct or being stereotypical. I don't like to stereotype particular people either, but this is a situation where you have to worry about yourself and your child.
Hopefully you figure out what's best for you and your child. Good luck. Hope I've helped.
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