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Originally Posted by jrf
What I find is that it is true -- we look for butt size or type of car but not the real issues.
We in the NA culture lifestyle don't think we need security, go after the other person because of looks or whatever, then after getting involved find out we do want security and responsibility.
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I have to disagree with this point about NA culture, I think security is still very important. ANd not everyone is looking at appearance, I have a beautiful daughter who has a complete circle of beautifuls girls around her who don't think that way. They're all in university and very conscious of consumer society, advertising and how it influences relationships.
Now as for your Dominican girlfriend, you could be her ticket out of the country. That's a possibility. But I know there are many good Dominican women who are trying to find stable, responsible guys to settle down with same as women here in NA. (There's a shortage of good men everywhere it seems according to one of my friends there.) I also have seen three cases of people looking for marriage for status purposes only and they also have a criteria for who they will "marry." THey don't want to live with a monster while they wait for their residency. So becareful, you have to get to know this person
very well. How old are you, if you don't mind me asking. Under 25, take your time.