misslyndajean,
miguel/musicqueen gave you correct answers. janin was probably not off base either. don't let a simple majority of opinions on DR1 lead you to a wrong conclusion about this or other topics.
There's no denial, no self-delusion, no shame, and they only take offense at being called a sanki if someone's doing so in a derogatory fashion - or when they're within earshot of their target. They know good and well what they're doing
