Not sure that I understand your question but I will give it a shot.
First of all men and women are very different, no surprise there.
The men that go to the DR looking for fun pay to play and they don't have a need to talk about it on a message board. Well at least we have rules about not discussing the where, when and how much questions.
The info posted on stickies was meant for both men and women but again men don't have this need to tell the world about it.
When men do find someone worth having a relationship with they really don't care what others think especially on a message board so again have no need to ask if this new love is or isn't a sankiette.
On the other hand women seem to have this obsession to prove to a bunch of strangers that their new found love isn't a sankie or a scam artist. Perhaps they are trying to convince themselves after reading the info and a bell goes off and then they post.
As mean and obnoxious as some may sound in trying to open women's eyes I think it's because men really don't want the weaker sex being used and abused by these potential scam artist.
If the info provided doesn't apply to your new found love, friend, lover or whatever why post and have this obsession to prove that yours isn't a sankie/sankiette?