Cold hard fact of living here. The equation is so different than US. I actually don't mind the way it works because it is much easier to operate when you know how things work.
Now consider my case, I am an educated woman who is young and I have no kids, and still am reasonably attractive. I live in a small Dominican town for about a month now.
Two marriage proposals by kids who are 20 and drive pasolas.
Several married Dominicans giving me the eye and "want to play" chatter.
One annoying conchista who follows me around telling me how hot I am, looking me up and down. I have yet to shake him but the response to allll so far has been: Causa perdida!!!
It's not a lost cause because I am not interested in men, it is just too hard for my American-wired brain to change in a month. And let me tell you there are no educated single 30 year olds in this town. Well, yes there are. There are two and I suspect they are gay, at least they act very gay and walk around town with older women laughing and giggling. And I have no problem with gays it is just to prove that men here hook up young and keep looking later.
The US model does not exist: nice guy meets nice girl and settle down for "relationship". It just isn't like that in my observation of my new town so far. I have met lots of nice men my age but they have 20 year old wives and babies. American me says, no thanks.
Thank goodness I am not here for a relationship--but work! It gives me something to focus on.
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