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Originally Posted by sjh
Dominicans have color that are very difficult for them to transcend. Marrying up in color is a big deal. Straight hair is a really big deal. First question grandma asks: pelo bueno o pelo malo (sorry about my spelling)
White North Americans do not usually spend a lot of time checking the precise skin tone of future spouses. Imagine discussing exactly how white your girlfriend is? Is it permi-tan? clear? translucent? or if her hair is curly or straight.
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I have to agree with this. My wife has the most gorgeous black curly hair of any woman I have ever known - and doesn't feel good about herself unless she has it straightened on a regular basis. She also likes to dye it brown. And asking her to lay out and get a tan gets me the same look as if I had asked her to beat her Mother with a club. I wonder just how much of her attraction to me is my lily-white skin...
Thing is, I'm pretty sure she's not even aware of the basis for these preferences...
In my family there's a type of reverse discrimination. Her mixed-race looks are met with nothing but admiration. "Race? Who cares about race? She's beautiful!" is the attitude.