It is obviously difficult to accept that someone is only interested in you for material reasons, but if you visit the DR for longer than a holiday you will see that everyones motives are materialistic and no one will do anything for nothing, if they do you will be stuck with them until they have got their worth from you in some way. IMO and from the people that I have met and observed in the Dominican with Dominican partners accept that it is a financial agreement in some respects. 'Most' of the men (including myself) are batting well above their mark and decide to just live with it as it isn't such a bad life once all the initial orientation is unspoken but batted out and you have a silent agreement.
Now I am not saying that all women have young studs and all the men have amazing beauties to look after them, but it is a slice of reality. I for one in my late 30's would not have an 18 year old stunning girlfriend if I didn't have a good job and look after her financially. I am aware of that and accept it as it suits my lifestyle, my job doesn't leave me time to create a real relationship so I prefer to pretend and have her rather than nothing. Loads of men are the same, and women also.
It isn't ideal but to have a relationship with a Dominican you have to be prepared to understand it can all turn out quite shallow and meaningless. Then again, no doubt many have had pretty normal comings together, but I wouldn't expect that many were down to love at first sight.
From what you have said I think you might be best to forget it, or have fun with each other and then go home and get on with normality.
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