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Originally Posted by ShygirlUK
Thanks for all your responses. This website and all your comments have given me the wake up call I needed!
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Just remember you are always in a position of choice. You don't have to make any decisions. You can go and get to know him 1-5 times if you like-- if you think it is worth it. I have thought of just saying to mine--If you want a visa I'll get it for you. Just sigh a prenup and be around to get it anuled when it's time. I would love to help him. He doesn't have to fake it to get it. He has never asked for anything other than me to be there with him. He already told me about his 3 kids and his ex. I feel he is honest--My intuition tells me he is. He is very honest, sweet and genuine. I turly do care deeply for this person. I have also explained to him that if he wants to come here he would probably have to care for the kids fulltime work part time and learn english ASAP. I would need to keep working-I make good money-most of the time.
Now, you also have to look at the cultural differences. They could be wonderful and always give you something new to learn about each other, or there could be some rude surprises. It's a gamble, but so are many things in life. i recently met someone here who is wealthy and we are just aquaintences, but we are getting to know eachother on a professional level. Some might think I'm after his money. It gives me an interesting perspective of how my dominican guy might see me. I think about how my life would be easier if I married a financially well off man. It's a nice day dream. going here, going there. Enough $$ to stop work and have a baby. It may not be that way with a dominican. They will need time to get up and running, and I have a year or 2 left before I can't have babies anymore. We need to look good and hard at the big picture and what we really deserve and need in our lives. My dominican guy is so caring and affectionate and loving, but will he be a dependant too. He is about 8 months away from being able to get to
PR. I would rather have him get there on his own. Otherwise, I will never know what he truly wants me for. Sure I'm cute, funny and lovable--I'm his VITA, but right now I'm also his VISA. Sorry I couldn't resist-I stole this from someone here!! Good luck. What does he do at the hotel?????