I don't get it either, but I have my own theories. One of them is that it is so rampant there that many of these women think that ALL men cheat, and it becomes a sense of normalcy. I know a lot of middle and upper middle class Dominican women, and I'm constantly astounded at what they put up with. One is very beautiful, very educated, a couple of degrees, and owns/operates her own business in SD. A lovely person inside and out. She could not have children so they decided to adopt. Not long after, they got a call about a child abandoned in a hospital who needed medical treatment. They took care of the child's emergency treatment and adopted him. Four years later she found out the child was actually her husband's son with one of his girlfriends. She was devastated, but she loved the boy and didn't want to risk losing him in a divorce, so she stayed. The boy is now about 20, and her husband is still running around. She had a confrontation with one of his women last year when she caught them together. Their marriage is a mess, but she stays. He stays because he knows what he has, and he's very close to her family, who all love him [even though they know what he does]. I'd swear that she's never cheated on him.
Others have put up with all sorts of similar ridiculous situations, and when I ask WHY they stay I get varying replies.... 'all men do this', 'I don't want to be alone', 'but he's a good father/husband', 'all women have to expect this', etc. One very upper class woman I know has 3 sons with her [well-known] husband, and her husband also has 3 sons with his girlfriend. The 6 boys were raised together in both homes.
The New Yorker in me just can't wrap my brain around it.
On the other hand, my husband's sister divorced her 1st husband many years ago just because she saw him driving with a woman in his car in SD.
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