Ok I might be putting my foot into my mouth with this one but here are my 2 cents. I'll only be speaking for the younger generation, so bear with me please:
Why do we put up with it? Because we do the same thing, we're just a hell of a lot more careful and discreet about it. I'm Dominican, and even though I grew up in the States, and I guess you could say that I'm used to the American way of life, when I'm down in DR, it's a totally different ball game. For some reason, it's totally acceptable to go out with your guyfriends or girlfriends, get a bit tipsy, sweet talk a girl or get sweet talked by a guy, make out with a them, maybe even sleep with them, and go back to your partner like nothing is wrong (I'm not talking about me btw, it's just an observation I've made over the past few years). Both sexes do it, and why does it work? Because their significant other knows that it's purely physical. There's not emotional strings attached. Lke someone pointed out, it's lust, not love. At the end of the day, they're still with the one they truly love, even if they can't keep it in the pants, the guys, or keep their legs closed, the girls. And since they both do it, you can't really be hypocritical about it and acuse the other. Also, for alot of people, it adds drama to the relationship, which they love, because it keeps it exciting in some twisted way. That's just the way it is in society, and it's sometimes has nothing to do with economical or financial reason, because I've seen women who put up with it who don't have anything to lose if they leave. Unfortunately, it's sort of a who can out cheat each other game. And I'm strictly talking about when your young and dating or have a boyfriend or girlfriend. And I'm not saying that EVERYONE does it, just that sadly, the majority do. Cheating while your married is completely different. But then ask yourself: if the person allows it during the first stages of the relationship, then who are they to say 10 or 15 years down the road that they won't accept it? You've made your bed, now you have to lie in it.
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