While I happen to live here and a lot of those things just sort of bounce off us, I can see whay somebody would be bothered a lot by what we feel is "normal" ..
Sad to say I feel the same way about Sosua and the environs, and would not go there except to sell cigars or have a beer with friends...We do go to an all inclusive, which wasn't all inclusive when we first started to go ther, by the way...and we sort of enjoy being tourists for a week.
I think that you would enjoy a less hectic environment, I mean, after all we happen to have 54,000 rooms here, and you seem to be perfect for the East Coast: Bavaro and Punta Cana would be perfect for you.
Unless you are really adventureous, it is not wise to go native...
HB
That's me on a good day!