The journey of life continues...
Posted 05-09-2008 at 12:13 PM by KaliEyes
...and another day begins, yet today is different than any other since May of last year.
Last night I finalized my relationship with the man whom I've known for a while now is not the one for me.
Great guy, great person, just doesn't have much to offer this relationship, and if he did/does, he sure didn't take the opportunity to prove that. I clearly, yet gently indicated to him on a few occasions (the first one before my DR trip in April) that his actions speak louder than his words, and that those actions left me feeling less than an important part of his life.
I guess some men just don't "get it"...complete oblivion! It's hard too see subjectively, I know this, but when the picture was painted for him, with examples of past situations that hurt & were a tick off, when I described what made me upset, angry and bitter....I would have thought there would be more genuine effort from his heart.....all to find out that was not the case.
With past relationships I've held on far longer than neccessary and I guess at 28 I'm not willing to hold onto something that has fallen apart with the reason "because I love him"!
From the 17th of April when I left for the DR, returning at 2am on the 25th... until yesterday the 8th of May...he came only 2 evenings last week and then again last night...that's 3 days in 21 - and damn it, he lives up the road, drives and has nothing obligating him otherwise - just his choice to put me last on the list even when I never made him choose between me and the rest of the world.
Once I was told by a retired man, who was well educated, set in his ways and very outgoing, that I need to be a B**ch in order to get the results I'm looking for. I still have yet to grasp this concept. Most of my partners have been dominating enough to either wear the pants, or share the pants..and in this last case, we really shared, but I never thought it would be neccessary to be a b**ch. Maybe things would have been different if I had of been.
All the meanwhile, the DR man continues to fill this head of mine with wonderful words. I suppose he's my preoccupation and 'medicine' for possible sadness, remorse and regret. The DR...the "doctor"...LOL!
Life is a journey, and with a smile on my face, a positive outlook and putting me and my daughter first in my world...I'm going to live happily ever after - with or without a man worthy of my time!
Last night I finalized my relationship with the man whom I've known for a while now is not the one for me.
Great guy, great person, just doesn't have much to offer this relationship, and if he did/does, he sure didn't take the opportunity to prove that. I clearly, yet gently indicated to him on a few occasions (the first one before my DR trip in April) that his actions speak louder than his words, and that those actions left me feeling less than an important part of his life.
I guess some men just don't "get it"...complete oblivion! It's hard too see subjectively, I know this, but when the picture was painted for him, with examples of past situations that hurt & were a tick off, when I described what made me upset, angry and bitter....I would have thought there would be more genuine effort from his heart.....all to find out that was not the case.
With past relationships I've held on far longer than neccessary and I guess at 28 I'm not willing to hold onto something that has fallen apart with the reason "because I love him"!
From the 17th of April when I left for the DR, returning at 2am on the 25th... until yesterday the 8th of May...he came only 2 evenings last week and then again last night...that's 3 days in 21 - and damn it, he lives up the road, drives and has nothing obligating him otherwise - just his choice to put me last on the list even when I never made him choose between me and the rest of the world.
Once I was told by a retired man, who was well educated, set in his ways and very outgoing, that I need to be a B**ch in order to get the results I'm looking for. I still have yet to grasp this concept. Most of my partners have been dominating enough to either wear the pants, or share the pants..and in this last case, we really shared, but I never thought it would be neccessary to be a b**ch. Maybe things would have been different if I had of been.
All the meanwhile, the DR man continues to fill this head of mine with wonderful words. I suppose he's my preoccupation and 'medicine' for possible sadness, remorse and regret. The DR...the "doctor"...LOL!
Life is a journey, and with a smile on my face, a positive outlook and putting me and my daughter first in my world...I'm going to live happily ever after - with or without a man worthy of my time!
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Stumbled across your blog just now.
Love is complicated. You don't have to be a b**ch, but you should set up boundaries. Also, keep in mind, when a man is in love with a woman, he'll go out of his way for her. Never settle for anything less than what you deserve. Best wishes. |
 
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I agree with the person who mentioned boundaries. The story of my life. I don't understand why it is so difficult for me to set them, clearly.
Anyhoooo, does anyone have any information on the Coral Language Institutes in Cabarete? I would like to get in touch with Gustavo, the owner. I worked with him about 4 years ago. Thanks. |
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Being a b**ch won't do it. There are too many options in the DR. He'll just change the channel and move on. From what I have read he has owned the court for the duration of the relationship. You have to do something to take it from him. You have to get him interested and then drop 'em just like that. Don't contact him for days. Then be seen flirting or dancing with another guy in public. Even though you might love him, you have to appear that you could care less and that he can easily be replaced by one of the many men in the queue. Only then will he pay attention. Right now he feels very much in control and you aren't going anywhere. You have to reverse that. Remember being a b**ch will not do it. Being a sexy, cold blooded (emotionless) snake will. Sadly, it's a game that you must play to win.
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