motivation to work once dominicans come to canada/usa

[susy]

i'm not sure if this is the section i should be posting this question on but i know it's the section that gets most read.


Anyways, here's my question. I know that there's plenty of self-sufficient hard working men living in dominican republic. I also know there's alot of non-working lazy men/women who find it easier to just find someone to help support thier livestyles by having people from usa/canada send them money.

My question now is. For those work like to work and those who don't like to work. What happens once they reach the foreign lands. I know Canada is the land of opportunity and that everyone here works. However, for anyone who now is married to or somehow got thier partner up here to Canada/Usa. Did those dominicans still continue to work right away. Did your lazy partner in DR still continue to be lazy here in north american do. IF so, how do you cope? Do you support them for the rest of thier lives or did you finally kick thier asses to the cub even if you are technically responsible for them for the next 3 years.

[bob saunders]

My Dominicana worked Hard long hours in the DR in her chosen profession, teaching, and in Canada she works long hard hours doing a job she doesn't like at all(12 hr shifts in an auto parts factory). She doesn't need to work, because I make enough, but she likes having the extra money. Laziness is not a national or cultural trait.

[gary short]

Poor Susy.... you've gotten yourself into a pickle haven't you??????

[curlyq]

Bob,why is she not pursuing her teaching career here in Canada. Does she have to take an equivilency test in order to teach Canadian standards? Just curious. I'm sure she'd be much happier doing something she enjoys.

[la_barbie]

If her English is good enough, she could teach spanish here

[rellosk]

Originally Posted by bob saunders

Laziness is not a national or cultural trait.

I agree.

If someone is lazy in the DR, they will continue to be lazy in the new location.

[baileyboy]

I have a friend who married a Dominican. He is working, and it did take time to find a job, however he has one (someone finally gave him a chance) and he is the best employee they have. His boss asks him all the time if he knows of any other Dominican men wanting work, b/c he's soo impressed with his work ethic.

So for my friend, her husband is still a hard worker in Cda, as he was in the DR.

[mountainfrog]

I know of a German woman who met the love of her life in a Samaná hotel. He was a dancer and she was very impressed how well he could imitate Michael Jackson.

After returning back from her holiday she arranged everything for their marriage as this was the only way to get a visa for him.

She came back to the DR, married him and flew home.

A few months afterwards 'MJ' arrived in Germany.

It took another six weeks or so when she realized she could not get him off the couch or give back the TV remote control.

She threw him out and he even had to sleep in the subway...

He's now back on stage in Samaná.

m'frog

[gary short]

I'm assuming the 3 year period of your financial obligation is not over... in which case it may be prudent paying his freight. Afterwards if he hasn't smartened up you have choices.

[Alyonka]

Originally Posted by susy

Anyways, here's my question. I know that there's plenty of self-sufficient hard working men living in dominican republic. I also know there's alot of non-working lazy men/women who find it easier to just find someone to help support thier livestyles by having people from usa/canada send them money.

Isn't it part of macho culture and men being superior to women that a man has to work and make as much or more money then his wife? I can't understand how can a man who does not have a job and no motivation to get one can be attractive to a woman or feel good about himself being a "macho" man... I have known and heard of Dominicans who came to other countries and made the best out of it. They could stay in DR and be lazy - it is much easier there