Nightmare question posted in wrong forum

martino · #1 04-10-2004, 04:21 AM

I can not sleep. It has been two weeks since vacation. I over drank on my last two nights at Sunscape Punta Cana Grand and was violated. The first night, a security guard at the elevator of the Disco ,walked me to my room. The 2nd night I was not lucky. The last night of my stay the Security Guard at the elevator took me to what I think to be the third floor and I got taken. I saw his badge name and I just emailed the hotel because I am so messed up. I am taking all these STD tests plus VIH. I am mad, sad, feeling guilty, feeling stupid, feeling ashamed. The hotel has not responded to my email. Is this creep still working there? Is he waiting for more women to come out of the Disco?

pati · #2 04-10-2004, 09:53 AM

I am sorry to here about your experience. No one has the right to force themselves on anyone. Having said that I must say that could have happened anywhere. Maybe you should consider not getting so liquored up that you need to rely on others to get you back home. Your story has been echoed by hundreds of women in the US who party too hard and find themselves in bad situations such as you have. Please do yourself a favor and clean up your act. Drinking doesn't solve anyone's problems.It only creates more. If you can't have a good time without drinking/drugs then maybe you need to change what's wrong in your life so that you can enjoy life sober.A friend of mine had a simular experience here in the US so I know it won't be easy but you need to move on. Learn from it and put it behind you.I wish you the best of luck.

simpson Homer · #3 04-10-2004, 12:43 PM

I don't really think the hotel will answer your email, they may need enough information about what happen also. They will be doubting about you because you did not report that person next day or before you leave that hotel have around 700 rooms and is not that big also is under patrol from the Marines. About VIH test, Hotel worker has to pass that test before start working at the Hotel and some hotel keep doing those test often. I will recomend you to get in touch to the Apple Vacations head office in Chicago or any head office in US. Because that Hotel is operated by Apple Vacation.

Sorry for your situation,

Homer

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Originally Posted by martino

I can not sleep. It has been two weeks since vacation. I over drank on my last two nights at Sunscape Punta Cana Grand and was violated. The first night, a security guard at the elevator of the Disco ,walked me to my room. The 2nd night I was not lucky. The last night of my stay the Security Guard at the elevator took me to what I think to be the third floor and I got taken. I saw his badge name and I just emailed the hotel because I am so messed up. I am taking all these STD tests plus VIH. I am mad, sad, feeling guilty, feeling stupid, feeling ashamed. The hotel has not responded to my email. Is this creep still working there? Is he waiting for more women to come out of the Disco?

Karl · #4 04-10-2004, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by pati

I am sorry to here about your experience. No one has the right to force themselves on anyone. Having said that I must say that could have happened anywhere. Maybe you should consider not getting so liquored up that you need to rely on others to get you back home. Your story has been echoed by hundreds of women in the US who party too hard and find themselves in bad situations such as you have. Please do yourself a favor and clean up your act. Drinking doesn't solve anyone's problems.It only creates more. If you can't have a good time without drinking/drugs then maybe you need to change what's wrong in your life so that you can enjoy life sober.A friend of mine had a simular experience here in the US so I know it won't be easy but you need to move on. Learn from it and put it behind you.I wish you the best of luck.

Typical response. I guess she got what she deserved huh?? But it didnt happen anywhere.

pati · #5 04-10-2004, 01:26 PM

I'm not saying she got what she deserves. If you read what I wrote. I stated "no one has the right to force themselves on anyone".You're right, it didn't happen just anywhere but since it wasn't some guy lurking around the corner that just snatched her up maybe this type of thing could have been avoided. Something for her to think about so that she doesn't find herself in that situation again no matter where she is.

AnnaC · #6 04-10-2004, 01:33 PM

I'm very sorry that his happened to you but I'm also wondering why you didn't report it right away while you were still in the country. Getting an email after the fact isn't very affective.

Tony C · #7 04-10-2004, 02:04 PM

You have 2 choices.
Fly back to the DR and press charges against that SOB or move on with your life.
Sending e-mails and writting letters from home will just prolong your pain and, I hate to say it, accomplish nothing.

Your only other choice is to sue the tour operator in the US. Of course that is if you have any proof or evidence to substantiate your incident.

Before anybody makes any more comments about the rape issue you must remember that we have nothing to go on but her word. We don't know what really happened or if it really happened at all.
I can go on with many scenarios. evrything from her being a true victim of the terrible crime of rape to a woman who is now vindictive because the guy just had consensual sex with her and dumped her.
We don't know. I just don't want to see any posts defending her just because she is a woman and it must be true. A good friend of mine was once accused and arrested for rape. It was in all the papers. He was totally exonerated later on and in fact the woman was charged and convicted with perjury and pressing false charges. Didn't matter. My friend's life was ruin and was forced to move accross country and start his life all over.

Captdavid · #8 04-10-2004, 05:12 PM

I believe this girl. And yes, girls find themselves in situations like that because for the life of me, they just don't use common sense; however, that doesn't excuse the fact that the guy did commit a crime; for no man, and I repeat, no man has the right to violate a woman under any circumstance.

Unfortunately, I agree that it's too late to take any action now. These things are difficult to proove in the US, let alone in a third world country such as this one.

One thing that she should do, is file a formal complaint with the top management of the hotel. And make sure it gets to the top. The best thing to do is to find out the names of the General Manager and everyone he/she reports to. Then Fed Ex a letter to their attention (someone has to sign that the letter was received) to make sure they get it. They will more than likely do nothing, but if they get enough complaints on the same individual, they will probably fire him.

Better luck next time, and stay sober.

Corky

Larry · #9 04-10-2004, 06:07 PM

Martino,
I am sorry to hear about your bad experience. Hopefully you haven't contracted anything. Don't blame yourself. If I were you, I woundn't go about trying to seek legal justice because I would expect you to meet frustrating obstacles that would just upset you, drag this on keeping the incident "fresh" in your mind, and impede your emotional healing process. Make peace with yourself and try to move on with your life.
Larry

jerryme · #10 04-10-2004, 06:08 PM

Pati you are an idiot. It's not her fault this happened because she drank too much.