My Dominican husband! - Page 3

deelt · #21 10-10-2005, 06:21 PM

Man, truer words have not been said. Jap, I don't know what your family situation is and if you have any money or not. But I agree with TD that you haven't chosen an easy road. I wish the best for you. Do sift and take what you can. Also, does this guy have any family in the US? Can they help with petitioning costs? What is he bringing to the table in terms of his own savings? I would suggest you take the well-meaning advice of these ladies that have been there, done that and are sporting the T-shirt.

Also don't disregard what you can find in a good thrift store or on a craigslist.com near you. I just fully-funished my one bed-room condo for under a $100. (And yes it looks nice).

Best
D

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Originally Posted by Talldrink

Lets all hope and pray this man has some sort of skills so that he can get a job. More importantly, lets all hope he WANTS to work in the first place. so here she goes bringing this man here, and then what? Is HE bying the crib and other necessities? Nyeden, have you HAD a baby? if so, you KNOW how expensive and hard this process can be? So is the process of a new marriage, petitioning someone and actually moving to another country! All this in 6 months...

Nyeden · #22 10-10-2005, 08:45 PM

Well then where there is a will there is a way. I feel for her because I went through the same thing ( well except that I waited until he was in the states to become pregnant). I am sure she will manage through best of luck JAP

LoveMyDRHusband · #23 10-10-2005, 11:42 PM

wow I have been married to my husband for just over 10 years and we decided to wait to have kids. I didnt want to share him and I wanted to make sure he was not trying to keep me barefoot and prego lol. It has been great to be free to come and go and not worry about a kid in tow. Good luck.

twincactus · #24 10-11-2005, 05:02 AM

Right now, no matter which way you get here, K-1 or CR-1, it will not be 6 months. Most cases are taking over a year to complete because there are currently over 20,000 people waiting for a visa appointment. If you want him here, you should start the process anyway. The cases I have seen that were expedited because of pregnancy were already through the USCIS and NVC and were just waiting for the interview. Also, it's not as expensive as everyone thinks, and the fees are spread out over time so it's not as bad.

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rellosk · #25 10-11-2005, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by twincactus

Also, it's not as expensive as everyone thinks, and the fees are spread out over time so it's not as bad.

What are the total costs for a K1/K3 visa?

Talldrink · #26 10-11-2005, 03:56 PM

I hope she didnt run away - Being that we havent heard from her...

I hope that once she comes back to us she can answer this: What are the possibilities of going to the DR instead? I hope he is promising enough that it is an option.

And you know what: to all the ladies who have considered bringing their boyfriends back with you - consider this as part of your of 'why-he-is-a-good-candidate-to-share-my-life-with' checklist:

If he cannot have me in DR, he cannot have me in at 'home' - if he is sankie, he cant have you in DR. If he is a Pela Gato in DR, he cant have you at home. Meanwhile, if he has a job, his own place or can make arrangements to have you move back to DR with him somehow - then ding, ding, he is a good candidate for this!

The point is that the man is supposed to want to be with you - regarless of where YOU live!

Nyeden · #27 10-11-2005, 04:03 PM

Talldrink.. perhaps you scared her away LOL... Have you considered the living situation in DR. You can't live there comfortably unless your rich.. ( more or less) Have you thought about that? Even if the guy can provide for you to live down in DR is not going to be the same unless he got $$$. especially for someone who grew up outside of DR knows its very difficult to adjust to living down there. I don't agree with what you said above. Isn't that why many want to live to make a better living hence provide better for their loves ones??

Talldrink · #28 10-11-2005, 04:18 PM

Lets go back and read our Sankie rules... it will take a lot of the candidates off the list. Honestly, I would not expect for women to move back to DR, but it cannot be considered or if the man refuses to do take this as a suggestion, it is a sign of other deeper issues going on.

Honestly, It will take ALOOOOOT for me to consider bringing someone back if he cant afford to have me in DR. That alone will cross off a lot of them from my list. If women were a bit more picky, this wouldnt be a big deal...

Nyeden · #29 10-11-2005, 04:26 PM

Picky ??? Well consider that a great deal (most )of the male population in DR lives in poberty. Don't know exact figures but I am sure I am close. So your motto is don't get/bring a Dominican Man unless he can afford to have you live down there with him?? HMMM

Jozee74 · #30 10-11-2005, 04:34 PM

TD if the guy made enough money, he would never consider leaving the D.R. unless its for vacations.

These women need to understand that these men are ruthless, once they step one foot in the U.S or Canada, their other foot is already stepping out of the so called relationship.