Now what do i do???????

[thurston]

What does the family say about this so called family member...??? is it possible to put
a little pressure on them...???

I would tend to go with Skippy1 on this one, if you have to pay make it so hard that
she doesn't come back.

Good luck

[Bronxboy]

This sounds like the racketeer that tries to extort a few bucks from you the first time and then returns for more.

I, personally, would not pay. This is going to open the door for more scams!!!!

You just don't hand 16,000 pesos (close to 500 USD ) to anyone.

If you do, god bless you in the future!!!! These people probably have other scums working with them. They apparently find you very vulnerable.

This is the streets in me talking.

Again, my opinion since I do not live in DR.

[jalencastro]

The Streets Are Watching!

[Skippy1]

Originally Posted by leekiv

Perhaps you could settle the fued without having to go to court or having to pay???

Skippy1

I am not going to ask what you are implying as whatever it is ,it really sounds "out of line". C'mon Skippy1 don't stir any pots. The OP came on with a question,( and absolutely Campensina she did something real wrong, but at least she admitted to it so I am sure she will have to pay for her mistake), and should have solid answers as this is something serious.

Best of luck to you and learn from your mistakes. They can be very costly.[/quote]

Maybe you have a downer on Skippy1 today if so get over it and get a life.
Firstly the Op stated that the mother of this girl was less than helpful when asked to mediate say words to the effect she was only interested in a share of the money. Secondly this kind of behaviour is very unusual.
Perhaps something recent like an argument over money with the relatives has prompted this behaviour. Nothing underhand or implied just an idea that the OP might look into the reasons behind the behaviour to find a different solution........now do you get it????

Skippy1

[Chip]

Originally Posted by laurajane

She does not have a lawyer, i believe she got this idea from a boyfriend of hers. We have spoken to her mother, but she has done nothing apart from tell her daughter she will be expecting some of the winfall (family really are the best, aren't they!)

I thought we could play the "Oh come on, we are family let's not argue. Come to the house and we will give you the money(she knows i am sick having complete bedrest). Antonio (My husband, her uncle) is very upset and just wants this to finish blah blah blah" .........And just see if she comes and if we are all smiles and make her feel relaxes she might be lulled into false sense of security and sign.

God i dunno what to do really!

Wow, it appears you've really got some winners in the family! Unbelievable to say the least.

The only thing I worry about you is that if you fight her for this money too much would she be capable of taking it to the next level, like paying someone to rob you etc? This happened to one of members here on DR1, they were robbed becasue of a disagreement over some money with a brother in law, the guy was completely wrong but didn't stop him from pulling a gun and stealing something.

BTW, this is for the most part rare here in the DR. In fact it is comon for people here to talk about families like this and they are never well respected but ridiculed often.

I would like to add that maybe there could be a compromise solution, like having a meeting with her and her family and taking a more concillatory tone by starting out with "I understand you have fallen on hard times, and we want to help as we are family and see if we can find a solution", and see if they will bite. More than likely any talk of blame will not work out well as these types function by the modus operandi, "It's not the truth that matters, but what can be proved". However, if they see that some amount will be paid out of the goodness of your hearts only, it might embaress their altogether empty conscience just enough to do it.

Nonetheless, I wish you the best of luck.

[adrianb]

Skippy1, bronxboy, thurston, can you tell us about your experience with Dominican labor law? How many employees have you liquidated?

OP: Listen to Rob. He knows what he is saying.

[Skippy1]

Originally Posted by adrianb

Skippy1, bronxboy, thurston, can you tell us about your experience with Dominican labor law? How many employees have you liquidated?

OP: Listen to Rob. He knows what he is saying.

Adrian if you read all my posts you will stumble on one where I say that all the sage advice points to paying up.....so thats my reasoned opinion as stated by me. The follow on is more in the line of why this came about.

See it is possible for one to change opinion after debating on the board its not all one way traffic and its Labour not labor in ENGLISH

Skippy1

[thurston]

adriand i am sure Robert knows what he is talking about, but why make it easy for her..??

[rio2003]

Originally Posted by thurston

adriand i am sure Robert knows what he is talking about, but why make it easy for her..??

IMHO - Rather than seeing it as making it easy for her it is avoiding making things VERY difficult for the OP.

Rio

[Bronxboy]

Originally Posted by adrianb

Skippy1, bronxboy, thurston, can you tell us about your experience with Dominican labor law? How many employees have you liquidated?

OP: Listen to Rob. He knows what he is saying.

Yes, do listen to Robert, I agree.

If you read my post, I said "in my opinion, since I am not from the DR."

I just think, yes, get out of it now because it might cost more later, but it might open the door for more future scams.

That is all and family can be the worst racketeers!!!!

Just have an open mind. These people seem very vindictive!!!!


Pay up, like some of you say, but do not call them family any more and keep your guards up!!!!!