Sexual Harrasment!!

[laurajane]

Originally Posted by Lambada

Did the employer sexually harass her from the first week of her employment?

No he didnt, however lots of people saw it coming. He was treating her very different from the other trainee which i even witnessed, now i have been thinking about it more, there were lots of weird things but im so busy i just didnt have time to question them. i might contact this guy and apply for a job and see what he say's, ,make myself seem single and see if this guy talks total crap or not.

[Rocky]

Originally Posted by laurajane

No he didnt, however lots of people saw it coming. He was treating her very different from the other trainee which i even witnessed, now i have been thinking about it more, there were lots of weird things but im so busy i just didnt have time to question them. i might contact this guy and apply for a job and see what he say's, ,make myself seem single and see if this guy talks total crap or not.

Laurajane.
I may have missed it, but I don't think that you have addressed the issue that a few of us have mentioned, about how the purported perks of the job offer were way too good to be true, and that your "friend" may share some blame in the whole scenario.
Nobody in his/her right mind would believe an offer like the one your friend was given, unless there were "special circumstances", like a personal relationship.

Let's assume for a moment that your friend is not as dumb as a stump and knew what was going on from the get-go, and a few weeks into the job, she decides that she no longer is interested in a relationship with the man in question and informs him as such, then he finds himself not only rejected, but feeling like he is the one who has been duped, and certainly is not willing to keep on footing the bill, so he rescinds the offer and all of a sudden it's sexual harassment.
If your friend dumped him, what could she expect?
I imagine that you are going to deny that it went down this way, and that it is only conjecture, but it would be a lot more believable than the scenario you describe.
Nobody is that dumb.

[cobraboy]

Originally Posted by Rocky

Nobody is that dumb.

Opinions vary on that one, Marco...

[Rocky]

Originally Posted by cobraboy

Opinions vary on that one, Marco...

I should have said, present comapny excepted.

[laurajane]

Originally Posted by Rocky

Laurajane.
I may have missed it, but I don't think that you have addressed the issue that a few of us have mentioned, about how the purported perks of the job offer were way too good to be true, and that your "friend" may share some blame in the whole scenario.
Nobody in his/her right mind would believe an offer like the one your friend was given, unless there were "special circumstances", like a personal relationship.

Let's assume for a moment that your friend is not as dumb as a stump and knew what was going on from the get-go, and a few weeks into the job, she decides that she no longer is interested in a relationship with the man in question and informs him as such, then he finds himself not only rejected, but feeling like he is the one who has been duped, and certainly is not willing to keep on footing the bill, so he rescinds the offer and all of a sudden it's sexual harassment.
If your friend dumped him, what could she expect?
I imagine that you are going to deny that it went down this way, and that it is only conjecture, but it would be a lot more believable than the scenario you describe.
Nobody is that dumb.

I tell you what let's just assume that i am not lying and it is what it is...jeez!
I can only offer the information that i know, i can not deny or confirm anything as i dont spend 24 hours a day and go to work with her. Like i have said on a few occasions, i was simply asking advice for a freind. It seems the job offer was too good to be true but then for me that sort of money is crap and i have no experience of working in the real estate game so i had no reason to question someone elses salary that had nothing to do with me. i have said that i and others were suspicios after she begun her training or whatever as he did seem kind of a slimebag, but according to her he was very nice, and only being friendly and helpful, she had been intruduced to the wife and invited to dine with them on occasion, so how can i argue with that. Later his attitude obviously changed and became more aggressive in his behavior, i believe this is possible opposed to a story that my friend somehow backed out of a pre arranged relationship with a butt ugly, older man that she had never met which would also mean risk getting fired from a job with(apparently) good money, kicked out of her apartment with no money . And your saying that is more believable are you kidding me?Are you saying that it is obsurd to think a woman would object to sleeping with her boss and she was wrong to turn him down as of course for a woman to be offered a good job (over the top or not) must mean she had agreed prior to meeting him and being hired that she would give it up on a regular basis. Would you feel happy for your significant other to behave in the same way, and would you accuse her of lying if she came home and said she had been fired for refusing to sleep with her boss???? Would you simpathise with him for giving her a good salary and angry at her for being so rude as not putting out for the poor old soul, come on! my friend maybe naive but i have known her for a very long time and one thing she is not is a liar. She is in a relasionship with someone else and has been for many years so i think it is wrong to try and blame her for the whole senario when she has done nothing untowards, only except a job that most young women abroad would also be tempted to take. I would if possible just like to hear information or advice based on the info i have given, as we could spend months discussing maybe's and what if's. but i am the only one here who knows the person concerned, has met the slimbag concerned, has been to her place of work, her apartment, have heard him talking about the car etc even if only for a short while. i am not an idiot, i am a very good judge of caracter, and i am telling you that i believe this to be true, if i thought for one second it wasnt i would not have posted for help on this issue. I appreciate all the advice but i think this will be my last comment on the subject as it seems i am also being accused of somehow trying to bring this poor poor old man down for no reason, with no personal gain to myself,with no motive and lying. I think the age old story of the boss trying it on with his female staff is far more common than the age old story of the woman who leaves everything to work and agree to sleep for a man she has never met, in exchange for a good salary only to suddenly change her mind as she has decided getting fired, living in the streets with no money is a far more attractive offer. Sigh!

[laurajane]

Originally Posted by Rocky

I should have said, present comapny excepted.

It is spelt company..and you say i'm the dumb one?

[Robert]

This is going no place. Feel free to post a follow up thread when you know the final outcome.

Closed.