marriage, divorce, pregnancy

cr12 · #1 05-12-2009, 07:47 PM

I am American, my husband Dominican. He basically left me after 2 months marriage, came back, left again (says irreconcilable differences). I am now 6 months pregnant. He has not/is not helping in any way, shape or form with our unborn child. I pay everything. It's been less than a year of marriage, I want to divorce him. Complication- I lent him a significant amount of money, he bought a car in his name (they day we married). I don't want any pension from him for the child, just the money I loaned him back. I know it's probably impossible, as he's being dishonest. Also, I have assets he doesn't know about (but I suppose suspects) in the US that I'm afraid he may claim title to if he finds out. I am employed in the DR, we have been living together here, but I am planning to go back to the US to have my baby and live. Do I have any hope of getting what was rightfully mine? It's as if he married to have money to buy the car. Can you recommend some lawyers for me that understand US and Dominican law to help with the divorce? I am in Santo DOmingo.

Hillbilly · #2 05-12-2009, 09:27 PM

LAWYERLAWYERLAWYERLAWYERLAWYERLAWYERLAWYER

You shoudda read DR1 before but now you want to see a lawyer...you do have, in theory, a good deal of protection.

HB

donP · #3 05-12-2009, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Hillbilly

you do have, in theory, a good deal of protection.

In reality she has none.
I'd leave the country BEFORE the baby is born, otherwise she may have problems getting his permission to leave 'paradise'.
The money is lost, something which a lawyer may not want to tell you.

Freefallfatty · #4 05-12-2009, 10:12 PM

OK, you need to speak initially to someone who was educated and understands both sides. I would say a Dominican Lawyer who was educated in US and now has gone back to make his money on such cases.
I have a lawyer who was Dominican and educated in the UK and so understand where we all stand. You need to do the same.
I have complete control over my situation as both sides are covered and I would advise you to do the same.

It makes a huge difference if you find the right front!
Good Luck!

Fiesta Mama · #5 05-12-2009, 11:07 PM

Maybe it's just me but this is a no brainer! Get yourself out of the country as soon as reasonably possible and back to the U.S. You have an unborn child to think about. Do not concern yourself with whatever reasons he may have married you for at this point nor whether you will ever get a penny from this guy, which is unfortunately doubtful. It's hard enough to get money from irresponsible men once the baby is born so I think you are expecting a lot to think he will be supporting you now considering that it doesn't sound like you have any future plans to be together. Consider it a cheap lesson since your child's future is at stake and that there is a real possibility that he may try and prevent you from leaving. Do not tell him when you are leaving nor show him signs that you are winding down and planning on leaving sooner rather than later. You said you have assets in the U.S. so even though you will not regain the money you lent him for a car, you obviously won't be completely broke. Go home and start over. From the little information you have given on your situation, this is how I see it.

Freefallfatty · #6 05-12-2009, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Fiesta Mama

Consider it a cheap lesson since your child's future is at stake and that there is a real possibility that he may try and prevent you from leaving.

Do tell me how this would ever happen??
I would love to know your info as getting my future child out of the country seems almost (nothing more than a few pesos in the right direction) impossible legally??

Hillbilly · #7 05-13-2009, 12:20 AM

There is an old hillbilly saying: "git while the gittin' is good."

HB

Freefallfatty · #8 05-13-2009, 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Hillbilly

There is an old hillbilly saying: "git while the gittin' is good."

HB

LOLOLOL,
STRAP that belly pork sow doan mama!!

chola1978 · #9 05-13-2009, 12:51 AM

is best to fight your battle from t he US..
once syour back in Goodoldusa and file for childsupport..you can hire a DR attoenry to doit for ou here and look out for the baby..he will one day want to have arelationship with your child and he will need to explain what happen..carma willtake its course

donP · #10 05-13-2009, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by chola1978

..he will one day want to have arelationship with your child

Unless it's somehow tied to $$$$$ or a visa it won't happen.
His family here come first.