We want custody...

[Rte 66]

I'm at American married to a Dominican. My Husband has a child with another women in DR, and we want Custody of the child. What can we do and How can we get full custody. We have tried to talk with her that the child will be better off with us in America. But she is being stubborn. We sent Child Support, but she hardy lets the child see my husband's family and she tells the child hurtful things about my husband.
Need help....

[donP]

Originally Posted by Rte 66

I'm at American married to a Dominican. My Husband _

Is your husband still in the DR?
Has he "declared" the child to be his?

[Fiesta Mama]

Originally Posted by Rte 66

We have tried to talk with her that the child will be better off with us in America. But she is being stubborn. We sent Child Support, but she hardy lets the child see my husband's family and she tells the child hurtful things about my husband.
Need help....

I understand that you think the child would have a better life in the U.S. in terms of education, health care, etc. but if this woman loves her child, no amount of convincing will likely work because she probably loves her child and doesn’t want him or her living in another country away from her. You have to respect that no matter whether you think the child will be better off or not. If your husband or his family is having a hard time seeing the child, why not instead go to court and get a visitation system set-up whereby she is obligated to allow joint custody or visitation with your husband and his family. Think of the child too and whether or not you will be uprooting an otherwise happy kid. If your husband continues to send child support, there is no reason the child cannot have a better standard of living than many children do in the Dominican Republic (as long as the money is going to better the child and not the mother as is sometimes the case).

[bob saunders]

Originally Posted by Rte 66

I'm at American married to a Dominican. My Husband has a child with another women in DR, and we want Custody of the child. What can we do and How can we get full custody. We have tried to talk with her that the child will be better off with us in America. But she is being stubborn. We sent Child Support, but she hardy lets the child see my husband's family and she tells the child hurtful things about my husband.
Need help....

Put yourself in her place. Would you give your daughter up to your ex and his new wife, just because they have more money.

[Rte 66]

Originally Posted by bob saunders

Put yourself in her place. Would you give your daughter up to your ex and his new wife, just because they have more money.

Yes I would, If I can't afford to bring up that Child and they could. Why not.. It's not about me. it's about that child. I want the best and she knows it. She is using that child like a toy.
I dont like that..

[Rte 66]

Originally Posted by donP

Is your husband still in the DR?
Has he "declared" the child to be his?

He lives in America with me.. and the child is his.

[Rte 66]

Originally Posted by Fiesta Mama

I understand that you think the child would have a better life in the U.S. in terms of education, health care, etc. but if this woman loves her child, no amount of convincing will likely work because she probably loves her child and doesn’t want him or her living in another country away from her. You have to respect that no matter whether you think the child will be better off or not. If your husband or his family is having a hard time seeing the child, why not instead go to court and get a visitation system set-up whereby she is obligated to allow joint custody or visitation with your husband and his family. Think of the child too and whether or not you will be uprooting an otherwise happy kid. If your husband continues to send child support, there is no reason the child cannot have a better standard of living than many children do in the Dominican Republic (as long as the money is going to better the child and not the mother as is sometimes the case).

I understand what your saying, but the Mother doesn't take care of the child. we do. So we want to legal Custody but don't really know where to start.

[pedrochemical]

I do not understand.
The child lives with the mother but you take care of it?
Which is it?
I suspect you do not have children - otherwise when asked if you would give up your child for your ex and his new wife to take him/her away, you would have answered "no" emphatically.

How old is the child - what does she want?
Could you imagine having a child of yours removed to a country where you cannot visit?

As a parent - this feels all wrong.

Why not knock one out yourselves?

[Rte 66]

Originally Posted by pedrochemical

I do not understand.
The child lives with the mother but you take care of it?
Which is it?
I suspect you do not have children - otherwise when asked if you would give up your child for your ex and his new wife to take him/her away, you would have answered "no" emphatically.

How old is the child - what does she want?
Could you imagine having a child of yours removed to a country where you cannot visit?

As a parent - this feels all wrong.

Why not knock one out yourselves?

You have suspect wrong I do have Childrens and the child in DR. As a Mother you want what is better for your Child. You want a Roof and food and Good health for them.
I would do that for the better I would like to know the progess. If the Child is well off so be it.
Bless them and instead of making this about me.

The Child is the one i want to successed and turn around an help the mother in return. After everything is done.

Nothing wrong with that; Sound simple enough

[pedrochemical]

Yup,
I have actually been trying to figure out how to contact a moderator to remove my post.
It reads hateful and mean.
I do not know why I read what you wrote with such a bias.
Sorry.