Child support collection, father located in DR

Charlee · #1 10-03-2009, 11:40 PM

My ex-boyfriend abandoned me 1 day before I was due to give birth to our child. I don't know why. He said he was going to his mother's house and never came back. I gave birth to our son alone. I heard from him 5 months later, but he did not want to offer any type of support. Neither emotionally or financially. He wanted to view his son then he left for DR. He told me he was going to DR in an email (Hell yes it hurt). My ex was born here in NYC, but goes back and forth from here (NYC) to DR. I am a college student with 1 year left til I graduate. So I'm dirt poor. My question is, if OCSE (Office of Child Support Enforcement) is trying to locate him for child support, is he "safe" staying in DR? Meaning will they never be able to locate him and force him to pay up if he never comes back to the US? Does DR work with the US in stuff like this? OCSE has all of his info...SS#...I even have his address in DR. And OCSE already has his address he uses here in NYC.
...And oh yeah, he wasn't present at the birth so he isn't on the birth certificate. On the 1 time he attempted to contact me, we had a talk about it and he doesn't really seem to care if his name is on it or not. (How can someone be so cruel? To just change overnight? To turn your back on your own son?) We were in a relationship for 3years, he knows this is his son and there is no doubt, so my son has my last name.

OU812 · #2 10-04-2009, 04:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Charlee

My ex-boyfriend abandoned me 1 day before I was due to give birth to our child. I don't know why. He said he was going to his mother's house and never came back. I gave birth to our son alone. I heard from him 5 months later, but he did not want to offer any type of support. Neither emotionally or financially. He wanted to view his son then he left for DR. He told me he was going to DR in an email (Hell yes it hurt). My ex was born here in NYC, but goes back and forth from here (NYC) to DR. I am a college student with 1 year left til I graduate. So I'm dirt poor. My question is, if OCSE (Office of Child Support Enforcement) is trying to locate him for child support, is he "safe" staying in DR? Meaning will they never be able to locate him and force him to pay up if he never comes back to the US? Does DR work with the US in stuff like this? OCSE has all of his info...SS#...I even have his address in DR. And OCSE already has his address he uses here in NYC.
...And oh yeah, he wasn't present at the birth so he isn't on the birth certificate. On the 1 time he attempted to contact me, we had a talk about it and he doesn't really seem to care if his name is on it or not. (How can someone be so cruel? To just change overnight? To turn your back on your own son?) We were in a relationship for 3years, he knows this is his son and there is no doubt, so my son has my last name.

First off, you will need to prove that he is the father. I'm not saying he's not, but the court will need to establish this first. No, he is not safe here in the DR if they can find him. They are much tougher here in the DR and they will throw him in jail until he pays what is owed, serious! I would contact the courts here in the DR, if you know his Cingular number (His ID) provide that to them, its almost the same as a SS# in the states for the people here in the DR. I can give you further advice if you wish, please send me a message and I can provide my Skype ID so we can discuss.

Noel.

El Rey de Mangu · #3 10-04-2009, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Charlee

My ex-boyfriend abandoned me 1 day before I was due to give birth to our child. I don't know why. He said he was going to his mother's house and never came back. I gave birth to our son alone. I heard from him 5 months later, but he did not want to offer any type of support. Neither emotionally or financially. He wanted to view his son then he left for DR. He told me he was going to DR in an email (Hell yes it hurt). My ex was born here in NYC, but goes back and forth from here (NYC) to DR. I am a college student with 1 year left til I graduate. So I'm dirt poor. My question is, if OCSE (Office of Child Support Enforcement) is trying to locate him for child support, is he "safe" staying in DR? Meaning will they never be able to locate him and force him to pay up if he never comes back to the US? Does DR work with the US in stuff like this? OCSE has all of his info...SS#...I even have his address in DR. And OCSE already has his address he uses here in NYC.
...And oh yeah, he wasn't present at the birth so he isn't on the birth certificate. On the 1 time he attempted to contact me, we had a talk about it and he doesn't really seem to care if his name is on it or not. (How can someone be so cruel? To just change overnight? To turn your back on your own son?) We were in a relationship for 3years, he knows this is his son and there is no doubt, so my son has my last name.

If you want to go the legal route, NY has some strict enforcement laws.

You need to first, if you haven't already, file a claim with child welfare. Once you do this, the State fo New York will send via court order the paternity DNA test to the father. Now, he is in DR, so they will have to use Hague Convention on Private law to serve process on him in DR. If he still has a registered, valid address in the New York, process will be served there as well most likely via U.S> postal service certified mail.

The father will have to show up at a designated lab for the DNA test. If he does not show, they will issue a bench warrant (value 500 dollars) for his arrest.

I am assuming this will not be easy as he will be not easy to serve in DR. If this does not fall under drug trafficking or Patriot Act, than the DR and US will be hard-pressed to extradite (but is possible). It is simply a very costly effort.

If you press on in NY with Child Services, they will, however be able to flag BOTH his US and DR passports.

Tricky and sensative matter. If you are serious, you will need to retain an attorney that specializes in these international matters. The State of NY also picks up the tab for most "reasonable" cases. An attorney is needed to pick up the ball where the State leaves off.

Good luck and continue to seek legal advice. At minimum, you can contact child services in NY to get, I believe, a run-down of your rights and options.

Best of luck,
G

sangria · #4 10-04-2009, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Pig

Secondly. it will not work in your favour initially (DNA, etc) that you made no attempt to make any claims until the child is around 6 months old. I also son't understand why you have all of a suddden decided the child needs a father

She has the right to make a claim at any time.

As a woman and mother of a small child that had to do it alone for the first few months, I can tell you that noone would have time to file child support and DNA claims while they are busy feeding/changing/taking care of their baby ALONE, 24/7 with no sleep.

A little compassion would be nice considering she has been abandoned with a tiny baby and no financial support.

I don't know what the rules are and I hope I am never in the situation to need to find out but I wish you all the best of luck in sorting through this mess.

Hopefully he will take some responsibility and support his child.

Sangria