Moving to DR but Scared!!???

[CORONADO]

Originally Posted by Criss Colon

In the USA you will live 100 times better without your husband than you will here with,(or even without) him. There is no ¨Safety Net¨here! No government programs to help ypu and your children! Take this Öpportunity¨ to be rid of the Dominican Looser! He will leave you for a younger girl the minute you get here! Trust me! Dominican men never take responsibility for their kids! You are his ¨Safety Net¨in the USA. Down here you will have nothing to offer him! He will be gone!
Cris Colon

I must admit for the most part Cris is correct with his assumptions. But the statement seems to be a little too assertive. NOT ALL "DOMINICAN MEN NEVER TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR KIDS". I live alone with my daughter and will never ever abandon her. I'm still married and have not left my wife for "a younger girl" even though she is the DR studying medicine. By the way Cris where are you from?

[colmcb]

I strongly agree with the advice you've been given by so many here regarding following him once he's deported. My husband's brother was deported years ago and it took no time at all for him to adjust to life in the DR (although he'd been in NY for most of his life). His wife/kids gave never heard from him again in NY, even though they too planned to follow him. Within months he was calling us for money to get married down there to another little chica!! He also had a child with her. Well, long story short, she was able to get out of the DR with some help from her family in the states and is trying to make something of her life. She sends him money every time she gets paid even though we have all told her not to, and "loves him dearly". Little does she know, he's got many other chicas that entertain him. He is convinced she will somehow come up with the means/money to get him back to the States.

In a nutshell - you may love him, he's the father of your children, etc...but as someone said - he got caught this time and who knows how many times he got away with whatever it is he's been doing. Don't uproot yourself and your children right away. Make HIM prove to you that he will fight FOR you and the kids....in other words, he'll become a productive member of DR society, get a real job, save his money, build you a home, a life for his children, etc.. BEFORE you get on that plane.

I've seen it happen so many times before and it's so sad. You'll have a harder time once you're here, trying to uproot yourself and your kids a second time if he screws up again - then what will you do?

I wish you the best of luck and pray that you make the right choice for yourself and your children.

[rsg]

I know that you probably love your husband very much but your number one priority needs to be the safety and well being of your children. If he is deported give it a little time before you make a unrational choice that will stir your childrens life into a negative whirlwind. Within time you will know if this man is worth starting another life over with in the DR. he will show his true colors and intentions within his first few months in the DR.