Originally Posted by Lambada
well, i havent been married to a dominican man OR woman but growing up this was the usual scenario: loyal, martyr housekeeper/wife who held down the entire household vs. often abusive, unfaithful, tyrant of a husband. thats not to say it didnt vary but that was the general gist of the countless couples i came across.
therefore i hold the same views: there are more decent dominican women than dominican men due to our cultures machismo. this doesnt mean all dominican men are bad or that all dominican women are good...just that the scales are definitely tipped due to the common man/woman dynamics.
My point exactly, and after now a few years in this country i strongly feel it's a fact.
Originally Posted by POPNYChic
Hahahahaha, you would be surprised, I learned the contrary the hard way. There's a reason the Dominican man sometimes acts a tyrant as you call it, if he doesn't do that he wouldn't get any respect from his partner. Hard to understand it but it is like that.
Originally Posted by POPNYChic
Even though there's really good gems out there, Dominican women are really good at posing what they aren't specially before you give them any kind of power.
Responding the OP question: Yes, there are good Dominican women, but you have to know where to look for them. If she comes from a good family is a start, also have in mind where you meet the lady in fact. If it was in a club or bar and you get the sense that everbody knows her in that place stay away. If you met her in another place (the street, the bank, shopping) them give her a try and refer to point No. 1 - Family. Pay close attention as how they talk with their girlfriends, the tone of voice and the subjects, if you only hear materialistic stuff out of their mouth stay away, do the same , stay away (for marrying purpose, if for fun the story is different).
Watch closely how she reacts when she gets mad and how she treats her family when mad, the same will happen to you when you marry her.
These are just a few tips, will add more when I get more time.
After seeing one in action for more than 3 decades,(my mother) my answer is hell to the yes.
Good wives and partners, my brother in law is a gringo from Ohio and he loves his Domincana, he even talks spanish Dominican style. Double hell to the yes.
so basically the answer is yes and no ...... now can anyone answer how long is this piece of string I am holding ?
This post probably deserves its own thread. Please elaborate Bob.
Originally Posted by bob saunders
extremeR, in a sense i agree w you as well. i think we all know some dominican women who seem to require some "wrangling" (though i wouldnt advocate that either). thats why i said it definitely varied and its not a "rule" or anything.
however, being that dominican society accepts (and even celebrates) lots of bad male behavior and looks down severely at women who do the same, undoubtedly it tips the scales somewhat--more men are free to do as they please and comparatively less women do the same. this doesnt mean there arent all kinds anyway LOL
I agree, I experience when these women talk about their guys about how they seem to demean his masculinity because he was crying or something. I tell them "Well, he cares about you a lot. It would be different if he beat you all the time just for breathing too much or something." To me it means that they are so self-centered that they cant see a good thing for what it is. Doesnt matter much anyway as I dont take them seriously after you encounter that. So with that I tend not to believe that "the men are awful but the women are saints" recantation.
Originally Posted by ExtremeR
Almond Joys got nuts, Mounds dont. So there are good women and bad women out there. As well as men. I think the women get a pass because of beauty so they can hide the beast within them until they have the guy engaged a little.
If you want to know what she is about, listen to what she talks about when you are with her. Dunderheads talk about dunderhead stuff. What does she do when you are at her place? Read a magazine in the dark? And what does she want to do when she is with you? Ir a compras?
And you can never go wrong with the DeNiro example from a A Bronx Tale. Here you cannot always see if she will open a door for you, but you can see if she offers you food when you go to her house or to cook for you at yours. Does she offer to wash/iron your clothes. Junk like that.
I met some also who were all "You aint...." "You aint..." Hey "I aint" coming back so dont worry about much.
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