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    Default Do "Nice" Dominicanas ever ask for money?

    I realize this may not be a clear cut yes or no answer but am simply seeking a consensus (if possible).

    I met a "nice" girl a couple months ago and recently visited her on a subsequent trip. We decided to become a couple and pursue a relationship together. I will also be visiting her during the holidays (at least that is my plan).

    Is it normal for a Dominican girlfriend to request money for school and rent? I have visited her apartment and taken her to school on a previous trip. I have no concern that these are actual expenses. My question is more in a cultural context, as this is something that I would not consider in the states (I realize I'm no longer in Kansas, so to speak).

    When I met her she had a job (where we met at Plaza International), but has since been let go. I previously asked her how she pays bills and her response was "she borrows from family". She appears educated and is currently studying French and English.

    Up to now she has never asked me for money (3 months) and I am more comfortable giving gifts as a show of affection. That said, I do not want to let go of a nice girl over the issue of money, unless this is something inappropriate or a reflection of poor character.

    Your advice is appreciated.

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    The money is probably for her Dominican boyfriend, I would not worry about it too much, nothing in life is free.

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    She borrows from family? Hmmm.On the contrary family members would encourage her to
    go live with them.Many families are too poor to be helping out with cash.

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    If she is not asking you for money,then what's the problem? Just continue to give her gifts
    like you've been doing.

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    I realize I was not clear. She HAS asked me for money for school and rent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bronzeallspice View Post
    She borrows from family? Hmmm.On the contrary family members would encourage her to
    go live with them.Many families are too poor to be helping out with cash.
    Her family lives in Santo Domingo and she lives and goes to school in Santiago.

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    Three months? Time for her to tell you about her debt. All young attractive Dominicans girls are in debt. Ask lots of questions. After a lot of wrangling, the truth surfaces. If she refuses to answer or gets evasive in her answers, that's your cue to split.

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    Many Dominican girls usually live at home with family members.In this case,it's different she's
    living on her own.Now,you met this girl,she was working and now lost her job hmmm...

    It's up to you really what you want to do,whether to give her money or not.If you do,I guess you
    will be sending her money through Western Union on a monthly basis.Or you can ask her to go find
    another job,I don't see why she shouldn't.

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    She'll make between 6000 and 14000 pesos a month at a job. No less. No more. Find out her rent. Other expenses. Debt load. Ask questions that you would never dream of asking. She gave you the right the moment she asked you for money. You've gone from nice dinners and movies to playing house. Are you cool with that? Tambo's comment bears consideration. Are there other men in the mix? Maybe. Maybe not. Find out. It could be all legit. It could be mostly legit with some random bits of shadiness. Or you could be one of several "sponsors". Or you could be buying jeans for her papi chulo. You'll figure it out.

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    SantiagoDude,

    You have received some good advice so far. Ignore them at your peril. Why make this person your problem? You provide gifts to her, but does she provide gifts to you in return (we are not talking about sex)? Dating or attempting to have a relationship with an unemployed woman or man in the DR, is asking for trouble. Keep your money but if you have extra, give it to an orphanage. As always, best of luck and spend your hard earned money as you see fit. A fool and his money are soon departed.

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