Are you dating a DDD? (Definitely Different Dominican)

[AtlantaBob]

Well written post. You are well versed on the subject, apparently well-educated and you must have a lot of time on your hands. That was a long post. Are you writing your thesis on Sankiology?

The next young lady that writes in looking for a lost love from a resort should be automatically directed to this thread.

[Robert]

I sometimes think people look way too deep and analyze way too much.
Some people need to get their heads out of "Cosmo" and into the "real" world.

And woman wonder what the attraction is for men in countries like the DR, Brazil, Colombia etc

The reality, with an Australian slant

HER STORY :

He was in an odd mood Saturday night. We planned to meet at the pub for a drink. I spent the afternoon shopping with the girls and I thought it might have been my fault because I was a bit later than I had promised – but he didn’t say anything much about it.

The conversation was very slow going so I thought that we would go off somewhere more intimate so we could talk privately.

We went to this restaurant and he was STILL acting a bit funny . I tried to cheer him up, and wondered whether it was me or something else. I asked him, and he said no. But I wasn’t really sure.

So, anyway – in the car on the way home I told him that I loved him deeply, and he just put his arm around me. I don’t know what the hell that means because, you know, he didn’t say it back or anything. This really worries me.

We finally got home and I was wondering if he was going to leave me! So I tried to get him to talk but he just switched on the TV, and sat with a distant look in his eyes that seemed to say that it’s all over between us.

Reluctantly, I said that I was going to go to bed. Then after about 10 minutes he joined me, and to my surprise , he responded to my advances and we made love. But, he still seemed really distracted, so afterwards I just wanted to confront him – but I just cried myself to sleep.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I mean, I really think that he is seeing someone else and that my life is a disaster.

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HIS STORY :

Australia lost the cricket. Got a root though.

[DRtechie]

going to print out this novel for the commute home tonight....

[earosemena]

Leja:

Men flaunting women is not uniquely Dominican. It's just a men's trait. (I also know women who like to flaunt their men. No harm done.)
Game playing it indigenous to couples, although your aim to enlighten women on the generic Dominican games is valid.
All of the points you made, all well taken, the most important is the one you made re: the cultural differences. Without a doubt it is important to know one can adapt to a very different way of life when thinking of a long-term relationship.

[Meredith]

Great post, leja! Very valid questions and something to think about on the commute home
The question is with all of your knowledge, are you dating a ddd? Did I miss that? I forget

[Lee-Lee]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Robert
[B]I sometimes think people look way too deep and analyze way too much.
Some people need to get their heads out of "Cosmo" and into the "real" world.


here here now....
sorry to switch light on robert... but her topics are actually 'real'. stuff like gender, matriarch, motherhood, intercultural aspects blah blah.... you know? the stuff some academia chit chat about in their silly little lecture halls?

not so cosmo ish if you get what i mean.

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[earosemena]

Yes, Leja, how did you compile this wealth of info?

[leja]

LOL AtlantaBob…no, no PhD. Not yet at any rate . As for where I got the info, it’s a mixture of both personal experience and what I’ve learned through friends and acquaintances - both Dominican & American, male & female. But no, Meredith, I’m not currently with a DDD. Who knows what the future will hold, but for right now I’m living in the US, and I’m just not a big fan of the whole long distance thing.

Thanks for reading that fricking long post guys, and thanks for all the feedback!

~Leja

......A final side note on the family and friends issue – many foreigners do not realize that it is not such an extremely uncommon thing in the DR for some children to be raised by extended family members or even in orphanages rather than by their mother (and father). Is your boyfriend introducing you to the people who actually raised him or to the people he may potentially see as having abandoned him? (and to whom he therefore may have a deep need to impress and prove something to)…



I WONDER WERE YOU LEARN SO MUCH ABOUT DOMINICANS, BECAUSE YOU OBVIOUSLY DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT US OTHERWISE YOU WILL NEVER MADE A COMMENT SO FAR FROM REALITY LIKE THE ABOVE.

.....Yes , we are raise for extended family but is because there is a lot of love in the family, and every body is willing to help, but ORPHANAGES, what are you talking about?

[MommC]

Come on over to Juan Dolio and I'll take you on a tour of the three orphanages that are operating in the vicinity!
Do you actually LIVE in the DR? If you do Leonardo1267 then you know that there are MANY orphanages in the country.