casual sex?

[Ken]

Pib, you don't need that as a sig line. We already know that is you, although so far the graphics have only been implied.

[andy a]

Originally posted by Pib
You are coming across as bigoted and ignorant. [/B]

(from Cambridge International Dictionary of English)

bigot
noun [C]
DISAPPROVING
a person who has strong, unreasonable beliefs and who thinks that anyone who does not have the same beliefs is wrong
a religious bigot
He was known to be a loud-mouthed, opinionated bigot.

bigoted
adjective
DISAPPROVING
She's so bigoted that she refuses to accept anyone who doesn't think like her.

bigotry
noun [U]
DISAPPROVING
religious/racial bigotry
The organization is dedicated to fighting bigotry and racism in America.
Commentators believe there is no other reason for the latest killings than a renewed wave of bigotry and hatred.

[dale7]

Here is my opinion regarding casual sex, feel free to disagree with me. Casual sex is normal in many cultures and I believe there is no harm involved in the practice if both parties are just seeking mutual gratification. What upsets me is when there is deceit involved, leading someone on just to receive sex from the other person. Some people can have sex for gratification without the feelings of love, and emotional attachment. That is the difference between sex and love. Making love with another is totally different than having sex with someone. When you make love, it is a sexual act filled with intimacy and great emotion/love for the other person. The desire to have sex is a biological drive installed in humans for the purpose of procreation, family units, intimacy, and pleasure. As long as it is a mutually pleasurable encounter without deceit and committment, in my opinion, it is perfectly normal.
dale7(use protection so there are no by-products(children) and less chance of a risk of a STD)

[tondra]

Amber,

Here are my two cents (for what it is worth). I, too, could not do the "casual sex" thing. It is hard for me to separate sex and love. I also thought I was "missing out" on something and therefore, did the one-night-stands for a brief while. I found out that I disliked myself a little more each time I did it. I realized I couldn't change something that was part of my core, and just because I didn't enjoy casual sex, didn't mean I was "defective." You can't be someone you aren't.

There may come a time when you feel you will be able to enter into casual sex without attachments, but enjoy who you are now. I don't judge those who are able to have casual sex. It works for them. It just doesn't work for me. Being different from each other is what makes life interesting.

Just embrace who you are and be comfortable with that. You will be glad you stayed true to whoever you are.

Buena suerte,

Tondra

[Amber]

That is just it, Tondra. Gracias. I'm glad you said what you did. I don't feel as if I am just lacking courage anymore. De verdad, muchas gracias

[AZB]

Woman have casual sexual contact just as much as men. Men, on the other hand, get it easily because they simply pay for the services while a woman can't play the same cards.
EX: women who claim to be so sexually sacred and act like a nun, you have to see them in All inclusive resorts. they will grab the first Gorilla they can find to get their rocks off. Many women who are respectfully married to their partners (foreign women with dominican mates) were known to be sluts when they first stepped on to dominican soil. I was very surprised to hear some women's behavior (in their past) who appear to be happily married with a dominican fellow. I am constantly told how many guys she had slept with untill she married the one she is living with now.
You see, men simply take a girl out to a date and get action or simply pay for sex (strickly talking about DR). Women seem to accept this deal in exchange for sexual favors while its very difficult for a woman who is not so physically attractive to seek action when it comes to competiting with the more youthfull (physically fit) girls. In my case, and I know many guys think the same way, would not sleep with a woman who is extremelty over-weight and unattractive in looks. I don't care how much money she will spend on me and what she will buy me; money is not an issue here. On the other hand, guys like criss can buy almost any girl which comes into contact with them.
See the scenario? We just don't have the same options available when it comes to casual sex or any type of sex.
Guys love to talk about their victories (with just about anyone)while girls only seem to share it among themselves. When I was in college, we used to tap into cordless phone frequencies of all the girls in the dorms and in the residential building in the area. The girls only talk about guys and sex, yes casual sex with their girlfriends. they are just as big of liars as men. So please spare me the nun talk.
Have a nice day.

[tondra]

AZB, you are a crack-up! (No pun intended) I guess I am just a nun. I did have to laugh though. You're just too funny.

Tondra

[Pib]

Originally posted by AZB
On the other hand, guys like criss can buy almost any girl which comes into contact with them.

When we met we discussed the subject but we couldn't agree on the price.

[dale7]

Women like casual sex as well but because of the weird moral standards we have, they like to keep it quiet except among their close friends. You should see all the single women at the Hamaca walking the beach with a Dominican man. Most of these women are unattractive by my standards and in their home country wouldn't be caught dead with a man groping and kissing them in public. They let their hair down and have wild nights just like a man would do, because cultural rules and roles aren't in place at that moment and place, no one that knows them to place a stigma on them are around. Culture and norms have handed women an unfair role that is a double standard, the man is a stud and the women is a whore. Through centuries the woman has been handed the role of the nurturer in most cultures and are taught, whether they recognize it or not, that they are supposed to feel emotion and intimacy with sexual activity. Men are raised to feel that "sowing their oats" is acceptable and a normal activity. I am speaking for most societies though there are always exceptions to all rules. I can detach emotional feelings through sexual activity because I was raised that way, I don't know any other way. I have never had that feeling of love as of yet, in my life. I am in favor of the pursuit of pleasure as long as it doesn't harm anyone in the process, at least intentionally. I encourage women to break the norms and values set upon them and have fun in their lives. Life is to short to worry about what others may think of you. Don't look at sex as having to committ and that there is something wrong with you if you take pleasure in carnal actions. People that are repressed sexually usually are the ones who attack those who are enjoying life to the fullest, and I believe, too scared to take the plunge of decadence and delightful pleasure because of how society would view them and thinking that casual sex is dirty or wrong. This is a typical Puritanical mindset that is usually associated with religion upbringing and view life as conformity. Most of those women on vacation who experience great casual sex will go back to their country and start living their frigid lives once again. Women enjoy sex as much as men and so I say, if you can enjoy sex without emotional baggage, do it. If you get it for free do it, if you pay for it, do it. Why fight biological urges? Why miss out on a good thing and lead a rigid life of conformity and following all the rules that society has placed upon our shoulders?
dale7(pleasure seeker)

[Amber]

AZB, I haven't reached the point where I'd have to pay for it nor have I reached the point of joining a convent. Far from it! Sometimes one just reaches a point in life where one has to rethink one's view of life.
and Dale, everone conforms to society in some form. Don't you ever have to do things at a certain time when you'd rather be elsewhere? Not all is pleasure, as I am sure you know.