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Old 10-07-2003, 03:12 AM
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Question A question for all

Is it possible to find a diamond in the rough?
Now before you say here we go again, here's a little background.

I've have been coming to DR, mainly NC for the last two years, I was invited by a friend who has been coming for the last five years. He boasted about the music, beaches, lack of crime and DR is very cost effective. (Five days in DR with everything included $700 as to Aruba $799 for flight & hotel only, we didn't even have a drink yet, before DR, Brazil was his favorite place) He did say that "danger exists" but not to worry.
Well, I was blown away, everything he said was right, the live bands, beaches, and the food plus the peace and quiet was great. We've been on non-stop drive ever since, everyday in a different town or city, stopping to talk to people, drink and enjoy the music (lots of drinking and driving). He's a guy who falls into the "Puta-less vacation" type. I read about the prositution and was prepared, but only encountered small amounts of it. Only the usual ploys to get money, need money for sick baby, mother is sick, rent is due,...ect. No big deal.

But one trip was different, my friend missed his flight & I arrived one day before him, I stayed in Casa Linda, until till he arrives. That day while shopping in Puerta Plata, I met a woman who blew me away, voice so sweet, eyes so sexy....you get the idea. Her friend introduced me to her, (you know, the old trick, my friend likes you, but too shy to talk to you) My first thought was here we go, she'll ask for money, do all the things I have read about, but "NO". I never considered myself having features of a person with Hispanic decent in my background, I'm just a regular blackman, nothing special, but they thought I was. She is a great person & I had so much fun with her, I cannot get her off my mind, I've returned a couple of times with my friend, but usually stayed an extra two days to visit her. I can tell that even though I was welcomed by her family, I am always going to be an outsider. I get the feeling they think of the world as "KIN and EVERYONE ELSE". She never asked for money, I just took her out to eat, car washes and the beach, plus got lots of help with my bad spanish.

Would I be wrong to ask her to come to the U.S.?
Well, my friends and co-workers say she just wants papers, but I say SO WHAT. My friends favorite phrase about vacationing abroad is "The less emotion expressed there the better." Getting papers to the U.S. isn't so easy (thanks to 9/11), it might be different in other countries, so I thought of just asking her to stay with me two weeks, TEMPORARY VISA, after that if she wants to go home, come back, see me or not, then so be it. If I never say her again then thats how it goes. Nothing lost, just time. My friends makes more money then me so me traveling every month like he does will end, so why not take it to a new level?

Another thing I thought of, Why don't I take here to another country? ex. Jamacia. I'm always on her turf, around her friends and family. We would be alone and have no choice to be with each other and experience a different culture. So, if its a game, I know. After all, all you need is a passport to get to Jamacia & if she ran away, she would be worse off there, then in DR.

AM I CRAZY?

PS Please don't blast me too bad.....
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Old 10-07-2003, 04:51 AM
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Just do a search of the archives there's a thousand stories like yours. Unfortunately most of them have an unhappy ending. I do wish you good luck and I hope everything works out for the best.

Ramon
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Old 10-07-2003, 11:34 AM
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i say go for it. some things dont work out, but you wouldn't get very far if you never took a chance.


you only regret the things you dont do ......................
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Old 10-07-2003, 11:38 AM
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jaymo517, I assume she is Dominican. If so, the question isn't whether you should take her to the US but whether you can get a visa to do so. Your chances are pretty slim.
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Old 10-07-2003, 11:44 AM
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Default Women change after they get their hooks into you

I think Dominican women change more drastically, but I am not objective.

If it is a game it may not even be 100% intentional, I think Dominican women do this instinctually, they can be very sweet and accomodating (even appear intellectual and open minded) as long as you still have a choice whether to be with them or not.

Once they move in, or they know they've "got" you for whatever reason, everything changes. (OK, actually it takes about a week) Pay close attention to how they treat the kids (and pets) in the house when you are visiting the family, you are going to be one of them.
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Old 10-07-2003, 11:45 AM
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Jaymo, no matter what anyone says, you will do what your heart tells you. I think you've made up your mind about what you will do, so validation from anyone here should not matter.

Learn Spanish, keep your eyes open and most importantly have FUN!
Visas are difficult, but not impossible.
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Old 10-07-2003, 11:50 AM
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Default Hey Follow your heart!

If you like the girl..go for it. Maybe a trip to Jamaica would be good to test the waters..What have you got to lose but money and a little time..Let everyone know how it turns out! I say go for it! PAM
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Old 10-07-2003, 11:58 AM
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Default Something to think about.....

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Originally posted by jaymo517
I can tell that even though I was welcomed by her family, I am always going to be an outsider.
Do you really want to go into a relationship where you won't be totally accepted by the family? That w/ just add to all the other problems you're going to encountered in a long distance relationship.
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Old 10-07-2003, 01:37 PM
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good luck
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Old 10-07-2003, 04:29 PM
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Thumbs down How long after you met her,did you screw her?

If the answer is "days",you have your answer! If she would have sex with you,a stranger,from another country,within a few days,she has been screwing foreigners before! There are NO "fairy Tales" in the DR!
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