need help from men in the DR

ocsavila · #1 10-15-2003, 12:21 AM

hello maybe some one can help me to make up my mine. i'm from new york and well, i met a man that i fell in love with, but he wants to go back home to the DR. and he wants me to go with him. my problem is that people tell me that all men from the DR are very controlling and that he is going to change the minute i get off the plane. also
I have three jobs an i'm told that the men from over there don't let there woman work?

AnnaC · #2 10-15-2003, 12:28 AM

Oh for heaven sakes go find out for yourself. Who knows the guy better than you. Here we go again. We don't know your guy and not all men are the same.

Oh BTW Welcome to DR1

Kuda · #3 10-15-2003, 02:55 AM

Ask him for some "return ticket" money, just to put in the bank for "safe-keeping". You'll get your answer.

Tony C · #4 10-15-2003, 03:03 PM

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Originally posted by ocsavila
hello maybe some one can help me to make up my mine. i'm from new york and well, i met a man that i fell in love with, but he wants to go back home to the DR. and he wants me to go with him. my problem is that people tell me that all men from the DR are very controlling and that he is going to change the minute i get off the plane. also
I have three jobs an i'm told that the men from over there don't let there woman work?

Have you asked him?

pasha · #5 10-15-2003, 05:34 PM

to go there as his wife or something else? In any case you can always leave if it's not what you expect. No?

Best, P

Criss Colon · #6 10-15-2003, 06:22 PM

How long have you known him? Does he have a job in the US,(yeah right!)What are you going to do here? Where are you going to live? Do you speak Spanish? How much money are you going to bring? Sounds like if you are asking for advice on a public forum from total strangers,you may already know the answer to your question! Dominican men let their women work.Who would pay all the bills if they didn't?Drinking beer and playing dominos doesn't pay very well you know!

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Lissa · #7 10-15-2003, 10:41 PM

How long have you been living with him?, Do you know his family, how strong is the relationship. Think about all this and the answer will pop up right in front of you.
Besides I never agree with the generalization about human groups (except for the obvious ones) like all the germans are nazi or all new yorkers are crazy, etc The fact that he´s dominican doesn´t mean that he´s an ape..
And before all think how ($$$$) are you gonna life here , is he rich over here..... Think about it

carcoll · #8 10-21-2003, 03:32 PM

Those are stereotypical descriptions of dominican men! It is not necessary for all of them..........You should definitely ask him, I mean sit down and talk to him to see what the game plan is.....ALWAYS HAVE A SEPARATE BANK ACCOUNT! Make sure you bring money, it can be expensive, not as much as NYC(I know I am living in NYC). If you do want to go, tell him that you will go try it out, it is hard for anyone from the states to just pick up and go move to a different country. If he really loves you, he would understand that and let you try it......If you don;t want to go, then don't. Dont change your life plan for him, because then you will be miserable. And believe me, it's not that hard to be very miserable in DR.(I lived there when I was younger). On the flip side. there are many great things about it...............But I think you should go and "try it"........good luck!

Criss Colon · #9 10-22-2003, 12:11 PM

It has been 7 days since your post. Are you still there??? Hello,Hello??

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AnnaC · #10 10-22-2003, 02:56 PM

One time poster looking for a scramble of answers.

LOL