Couples moving to the DR.

DRdiving · #1 11-13-2003, 10:39 PM

I have just finished reading Timex's sticky regarding "moving to DR". On the last page there is a post for the late and well respected, Johnny Honda. He said that in his 18 plus years living there that 90% of the couples that moved to DR split up. Can anyone add any insight as to why this is? Is it the temptation of a more sexually liberal society, is it the stress of adjustment to a new country or is it inaccurate expectaction on the part of those couple moving to "paradise"? I thought it was an interesting remark and would be interested in what some you DR veterans would have to say about it.

Cheers!

Eddy · #2 11-14-2003, 01:51 AM

DRdiving · #3 11-14-2003, 01:55 AM

lol, I thought so!

pasha · #4 11-14-2003, 08:52 AM

on first? The man or the woman? Serious question.

Best, P

Keith R · #5 11-14-2003, 10:01 AM

Guess my wife and I were among the 10% that beat the odds, so perhaps I shouldn't remark, especially since we were not one of those who went there expecting to move to "paradise." My wife is Dominican with lots of family in SD and we had been traveling there together for nine years, never at a resort or even a hotel, before we moved there in 1995. We had a pretty good idea of what we were getting into....even so, there was stress of adjustment. But I think Timex's sticky covers much of that territory well, so I won't rehash that here.
Regards,
Keith

Criss Colon · #6 11-14-2003, 10:37 AM

Also in Taipei Taiwan!
What do these places have in common? Sex is available on every corner.Sex is a commodity,and American and European women (the only ones I have knowledge of)harbor anxiety about their husband having lots of sex with young "local" girls.And they should be!
Just like here,the streets and clubs are filled with foreign men meeting "local" girls!
Even those few men who are faithful pay a price.The wives all sit around the pool during the day discussing what goes on,and his wife has to have doubts!
The statement you hear ALL the wives making goes like this,"My husband has NEVER cheated on me!!! I give him all he can handle at HOME!!!"This may make her feel better,but most men who cheat don't cheat because they aren't getting any at home,they cheat because they always want "NEW" sex!
I believe that it is a character fault at least,and a physiological/psychological defect at most!
I stopped trying to find out "Why" about 35 years ago!
Alcohol problems also play a role.I see many men living "Overseas" drinking a lot,and this also makes their wives angry.
I stopped drinking because of this!! ONE out Of TWO Ain't Bad!!!!!!!

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XanaduRanch · #7 11-14-2003, 11:17 AM

I agree 100% with what CC posted.

I would add that I wonder, too, though about the reasons the those folks moved here in the first place. That's a big, life-changing event. It's not for everyone and certainly not for the feint-of-heart. It may also be that the stress of that move and living in a strange land, far from home is a contributing factor. It may also be that some of the couples that make the move were having problems at home and thought that a change of scenery might somehow prove to be a magic fix for whatever is wrong with the relationship. So, the breakup happens anyway, but just here instead.

Tom (aka XR)

kunky · #8 11-14-2003, 11:45 AM

im thinking that another reason for divorce would be because, in your homeland you're accustomed to the every day "routine life" but when you move to another country the lifestyle definately changes, and the locals have a way to make you feel "welcomed".lol. its almost feeling like your attractive to the opposite sex. its almost like youre being "noticed" more than what you would be. residents of the dr are more aggressive than anyone i know here in canada. they're upfront, and very forward. if youre living in a foreign country and are of the "mid-life crisis stage" im wondering if divorce is high because feeling young again is one of the main reasons. theres nothing better than feeling like youre attractive to someone, the feeling of being in love again at whatever age, and if it makes you feel good and young again, then the temptation is right in your face every day. do imake any sense?

sancochojoe · #9 11-14-2003, 12:02 PM

I think in any country you go to that is poor and you as a Gringo feels like everyone is noticing you, to me I beleive all they see is dollar signs.

If you feel all of a sudden these young woman in another country are starting to give you attention that you would never get in the US, especially if you don't meet the physically attractive traits typical of what a woman desires.......
again dollar signs.

Even if you go to DR and you are married, in a poor country and girls are giving you attention that you know you would not get in the States or Canada and you feel you are this 300 pound sexual God............dollar Signs.

So yes, there is a great chance that your wife would not be to happy when young females treat you like most professional Atheletes get treated in the US. There is the risk of divorce.
Your wife will go away a destressed former spouse and the husband will most likely fullfill his fantasies he wouldn't get in his own country.

IF sex is the main issue for divorce.

kunky · #10 11-14-2003, 12:43 PM

i agree with you san, you're right about the dollar signs, but for anyone who is not accustomed to all of the attention, they are hooked right away. it is a compliment to anyone to be given "attention" but unfortuneate if that person cant see throught it. i wonder if there is anyone out there who has moved to the dr, married and is not divorced, and happy? thats a good thread to start.