Can Dominican Women Change?

[MrMike]

That is the same advice I would give anyone, AZB, so I know where you are coming from, however there are some flaws in your reasoning as it applies to my case specifically.

1) I already live in the DR.

2) There aren't very many people younger or prettier than she is, in that department it doesn't get much better than a 25 year old professional runway model who is also a former Miss Dominican Republic (1999) Before you go looking her up on the web with those specifics I'll go ahead and qualify the statement by saying that the DR did not compete in the Miss Universe pageant that year, although they did have their own local competition on a national level, and she was only a runner up in the actual pageant but when the winner was disqualified right after the contest the crown was passed to her.

Not that that really matters, if I had not been so concerned with "young and pretty" I wouldn't be having half the problems I am now, I'm sure. - Sure beats old and ugly though.

[Criss Colon]

Every Dominican woman,married to an American,who has an "Ex-Wife" in the US is "jealous" of the "X"! Some of it is real jealousy,some of it is just trying to manipulate,and be in charge of the relationship!
Any time,or money that goes to "X-Wives" and children in the US,is money out of her pocket!!

At 13 months,you will now see if your relationship is based on your desire for sex,and her desire for money,or a real love and affection shared by both of you!

If the relationship is going to last,you need to take charge.You need to be the Boss.
I once told an American friend visiting here,and dating Dominican women,that they expect the man to be incharge,make decisions.
Not like the USA where you ask your date where she would like to go for dinner,or what movie she would like to see.The Dominican woman doesn't want to make those choices.Its your job as a man to be in charge!
I told him to be sexually aggresive.If you don't,the girl will think she is not attractive,or that you are "Gay"! He spent the night with a girl,I asked him how it went,he said that he "sensed" that she was not ready!! She asked me if he was "Gay" when he left!

You need to "Manage" your relationship "better"!
Remember,if she was married to a Dominican,he would be Beating her into line"!

Don't be a "Pendejo"! A Dominicana will take all the rope you will give her!!You are no doubt in the clutches of a "Manipuladora".Gain Control! You will both feel better in the longrun!

Got to go now,my wife wants me to wash her feet! Cris Colon

[Timex]

1999 Miss Universe, Delegates.


Just click on the link above & scroll down to, Luz Garcia.



Tim H.

[MrMike]

It's the "Miss Mundo" contest, different than the Miss Universe franchise. Sorry if I caused any confusion by referring to her "credentials"

I'm sure you'll meet her on Thursday.

[Robert]

Originally posted by Timex
1999 Miss Universe, Delegates.

Just click on the link above & scroll down to, Luz Garcia.

Tim H.

I have seen his "X" and she is not the girl above, but is VERY attractive. Actually, much more so than the girl in the above photo.

[Timex]

Not very optimistic, are you Rob?


Rim H.

[jsizemore]

In my opinion you need to ask yourself why is she willing to change? Is it because she truly feels she was wrong or is it because she is upset with the consequences of her actions?
Maybe she could change but only if you spend your whole time baby sitting her. Also if you give her time to fume about it and really feel the pain of loosing you maybe then she will have grown up. But by then you will have had time to live in peace with out the B.S. and not want her back. Also if after a week you are thinking of letting her come back then maybe there is some issue with your own confidence. Also have you during the relationship given in for the sake of peace and quit. Have you empowered her to be a childish fool?
Only you will know what you want. But these are the questions you need to ask yourself. For the record a few years back I was going through a break up. My ex did not know from one day to the other whether she was going to stay or go. She had screwed up and was not able to deal with her own guilt so she would go from repentant to hostile in the same day with out notice. I was taking counseling to keep from wringing her neck and the anger management counselor told me she needed to refer me to someone else because “John your ability to control your anger is higher than my ability to counsel you because I would have wrung her neck already” food for thought. Basically is it worth it?

[rmary]

My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship. He hasn't been able to have much contact with her because her mother moved pretty far away when the girl was very young.

She (the daughter) recently moved back to our area and got in contact with her father by email. They met for the first time in many years about a year ago. I have not met her, but she sounds like a wonderful young lady. All I can say is that I am happy that my husband finally has the opportunity to have some contact with his daughter. I know it has nagged at him over the years that he did not.

That being said, and without getting into too much sordid details, it can indeed feel quite threatening, especially if one does feel insecure in the relationship. Ultimately, BOTH sides have to try to understand the other person's feelings and to help to alleviate any negative feelings. That being said, one side can't do it all. There is a big difference between cowtowing and compromise.

Can she change? Of course she can, if she really wants to. I would give it another try, but be prepared if it doesn't work out.

Good luck.

Rmary