My husband is cheating - legal actions

Catia · #1 12-01-2003, 08:36 PM

Hello all,
It's terrible that I have to come to this board under these circumstances. But I live in the US and my husband travels to the DR every two weeks out of the month. To make a long story short, he has engaged in an affair while in the DR and I would like to know more about what's actually going on before I make any final decisions. How would I go about finding out more about his little friend if I only have a first name and her home phone and cell #.

Thanks for any advice.

Escott · #2 12-01-2003, 09:11 PM

Ask your husband.

Catia · #3 12-01-2003, 09:15 PM

Jee, I never would of thought about that - what do you think!!! OF course I asked. But do you think a cheating husband would be truthful?

I want real facts.

Robert · #4 12-01-2003, 09:30 PM

Post her details. I'm sure it wouldn't take us long to find out

By the way, you cannot do a reverse look up on cell phone numbers in the DR.

dms3611 · #5 12-01-2003, 10:10 PM

....have a high degree of confidence that AZB knows her......

ClippedWing · #6 12-01-2003, 10:12 PM

1) Hop on a plane and follow him down there.
2) Hire a PI in the DR.
3) Call the girl,
A)state your his wife and you want to know what's going on.
B)State your his other girlfriend(she may be willing to give up
more info to another girlfriend vs. a wife)
C)Call her and then ask for your husband in a really seductive
voice... Then she'll say.."Who the F is this?" and you'll
say "Well who the f is this?" And she'll say, I'm such and
suches girlfriend and you'll say, No I'm his girlfriend.. then
you guys will start comparing notes.. And you have your info.
D)Call her and say "Mr. Catia gave me this number to contact
him in the case of an emergency, Is he available, this is his
job" Then say something like, Is this his sister? And she'll
say no, his "whatever she is"
E)Have a male friend call and say he's a buddy of Mr. Catia,
then make up some BS to get more info.
4) Tell him you want to go with him on one of his visits see how
he reacts.
5) Call her cell phone while your husband is down there and you
suspect he's with her and ask for him, when he gets on the
phone he's busted.
6) Call when she's not at home and talk to a relative, preferably a
child and pump them for info.
7) Put a tap on your telephone and record his phone calls.
8) Put a tape recorder wherever he may be calling her from.

Me personally? I'd do Number 1 or 3c or 5, but if my suspicion was really strong...Number 1 all the way. Nothing like the element of surprise and catching a man with his pants down.

Good Luck..

Smooches...Clip.

carl ericson70 · #7 12-01-2003, 10:37 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Catia
Hello all,
It's terrible that I have to come to this board under these circumstances. But I live in the US and my husband travels to the DR every two weeks out of the month. To make a long story short, he has engaged in an affair while in the DR and I would like to know more about what's actually going on before I make any final decisions. How would I go about finding out more about his little friend if I only have a first name and her home phone and cell #.

Thanks for any advice.

I know what you're going through(been there done that),yet I don't think contacting the other woman is going to do you any good at this point.From what I've seen in the past,when there's cheating in a marriage, it's usually the beginning of the end.The lies & deception will eventually reach a boiling -point.

I think that your best bet would be to confront your husband head-on,let him know that you're aware that he's messing around on you and seek some sort of resolution:Be it counseling,seperating,divorce etc..The sooner the better!

Take care!
Carl E.

Tony C · #8 12-01-2003, 10:57 PM

Catia,

Maybe, just maybe, it is you who is the problem! Are you a good wife? Do you make sure your man is happy? Do you nag him? Have you let yourself go?
If he goes every month to the DR that means he is comming back to you. So what is the problem? Perhaps you are afraid that he will decide that his woman in the DR is better than you?

BTW Any man on DR1 who helps this woman is a traitor to his gender.

Juan_Lopez · #9 12-01-2003, 11:15 PM

My dad told me when I asked him if he ever cheated on mom his reply was.............

Quote:

"Bread, Bread, Bread every once and awhile we like a piece of cake"

Does he still support you financially and emotionally?

Why not go get some yourself? You might find it fills a void and might even make your relationship better?

Caral · #10 12-01-2003, 11:35 PM

A dear friend of mine was almost killed following her husband down to the DR. Stay home and deal with the situation in a safe place. (Her husband tried to save on alimony by having her killed). This is a true story, which can be confirmed by the Dominican attorney who saved her life. Take care of you. You are really powerless over him.