Dominican Style Love (So He Thought)!!

miguel · #1 05-02-2005, 03:08 PM

On my latest trip to the DR (came back on April 30th), I had the opportunity to witness something that I have mentioned on this site over and over regarding foreigners and even visiting dominicans "finding" love in the DR. Especially "young love".

On my way to Los Guayacanes Beach at around 1am, I stopped at a chimichurry stand (La Placita) on Avanida Espana in SD. This litlle place is right next to El Acuario. If you know the area, you will know that many of these stands have a little stair that you can walk down to get closer to the ocean and since they have plastic chairs and tables, you can have a more "intimate" moment with your significant other down there. More on this to follow.

Well, my group was eating our chimys in front of the stand when a very pleasant man, who have heard me on my cell speaking in english, called me to his table. He introduced himself and his "posse". This 51 y/o Californian introduced me to his father-in-law, his 15 and 17 y/o sisters-in-law, cousin-in-law, a friend of his wife's and finally to his "love", his wife of 2 years, somewhat pretty yourg girl who looked 25 or so (so I thought).

The "love" was in the air. All over the place. This girl was hanging on to her husband as if her life was to end. She would kiss this man over and over. She would kiss his hand and would rest her head on his shoulder all the time. The love that this girl was showing this man was unbeliable!. I thought to myself, "he is older than her father but maybe I am wrong on this one, maybe this is the real thing since NOONE can show so much love for someone and not mean it, those looks can not be faked, that body movement have "I love you to death" written all over it, I have to be wrong on this one".

All of a sudden he tells me that they have been married 2 years, that he was leaving to California at 11am that same day, that she is all he needs, that he goes to the DR every 2 months to be with her, that she is a university student, that he is "doing her papers", that he would kill and die for her and that she is only 19!!!!!. Holly crap. Now my mind is going 100 miles per second!. I said to myself, "I am on vacation so I will not tell this guy what I really think of him" so I just got up, told him "good luck" and rejoined my buddies.

I told my friends what had just transpired and I just, in my mind, wished him good luck again. My friend Mayra just said "poor man".

We were treated so nicely by the stand's owner and one of the servers, who kept calling me Juan Carlos because I reminded her of her boyfriend, that we decided to go back again the next day at around 11:30pm (well, same day since we were there at 1am).

We (best friend Ramon and brother Carlos) were having the best of time when all of a sudden, from "downstairs" came up 2 "familiar" faces and 2 non-familiar. One of the familiar faces was the Californian 17 y/o sister-in-law who now was holding hands with an old(I am guessing 45 or 47) foreigner.

The other "familiar" face was that of none other than the "lovestruck" wife of the California man!!!!!. This time she is "showing" her "love" to a young, dark dominican!!!!!. Since her makeup was all over the place, I wonder what they were doing "down-below". She was tattoed to this young man just like she was tattoed to her husband and "love" at 1am.

My friend Ramon, being a very serious and proud dominican, when they were passing by us, asked the California man's wife, "hey, tell your husband that we say hello". She just looked at us and gave us a "I don't care look", never letting her "new love" hand go. I just shooked my head. The server just said "Tu no sabes na, esa lo trae a todos aqui despues que su marido se va, ese gringo es un pendejo".

NOTE:::: I know that all situations are different and that THERE ARE a few happy old/young relationships out there. Just keep your eyes open and your common sense intact!!!!!.

stewart · #2 05-02-2005, 03:56 PM

I didn't ever notice it. But my wife actually hates going out when we are in DR. We are the same age (early 30's), have been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. But she points out that because I am as pale as I can be and she is morenita, that everybody just assumes she is a hooker. Or that she is with me for the visa/money. It stinks that the stereotypes exists. But such is life. Stereotypes become such for a reason.
La vida es asi.

xamaicano · #3 05-02-2005, 04:57 PM

I don't understand why this is so shocking or even disturbing. She provides him with a young body and he provides her with material support. It is a transactional relationship. As long as she keeps up the illusion when he there, he is getting what he pays for. Most young women are not going to be satisfied with only a steady diet of old man sex. She is only 19.

Bartolomeo67 · #4 05-02-2005, 05:30 PM

"Just keep your eyes open and your common sense intact!!!!!."

... And make sure you speak good spanish if you want a truly serious relationship with a 'no speaky inglish' chopa dominicana.
Very good post, Miguel!
Giving her whole family a 'free ride' on the gringos money that night out was already a bad sign. I don't suppose the guy spoke enough spanish to be able to communicate properly with his wife and his in-laws. It's not only a money thing, as a gringo you simply may not expect your girlfriend to be emotionally satisfied with you when you don't understand anything about the life she leads and she cannot really communicate with you about what really counts. The gringo is a mere sugardaddy in her eyes, no matter how loving she seems to be.
Bartolomeo

miguel · #5 05-02-2005, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by stewart

I didn't ever notice it. But my wife actually hates going out when we are in DR. We are the same age (early 30's), have been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. But she points out that because I am as pale as I can be and she is morenita, that everybody just assumes she is a hooker. Or that she is with me for the visa/money. It stinks that the stereotypes exists. But such is life. Stereotypes become such for a reason.
La vida es asi.

See, you and your wife are in your 30's, 10 years together and have 3 kids so why do you care what people assume?. Yes, many would assume that but who cares. My thread is sorely for those FEW that are blind thinking that their "old enough to be their daughters" wives are merely waiting with open arms for their arrivals. I am not talking about hookers.

Again, I must state, some (very few, imo) DO work.

miguel · #6 05-02-2005, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by xamaicano

Most young women are not going to be satisfied with only a steady diet of old man sex. She is only 19.

FINALLY!!!!. Someone that truly gets it!!.

With so many "young studs" in the DR, why settle for someone that can be her father if there's no secondary motive?.

AnnaC · #7 05-02-2005, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by miguel

My thread is sorely for those FEW that are blind thinking that their "old enough to be their daughters" wives are merely waiting with open arms for their arrivals. I am not talking about hookers.

Again, I must state, some (very few, imo) DO work.

But Miguel faithfulness in your mate has nothing to do with age or age differences.
A 22 year old can have a long distance relationship with another 22 year old and there's no garantee of either party staying faithful to each other.

Hell I've watched the program "cheaters" a couple of times and I see there's no garantee even if you live in the same city for pete sakes.

The thing is there too many people out there in the whole world not just in DR ready to try a new flavor all the time and people willing to let them.

xamaicano · #8 05-02-2005, 06:48 PM

He is not trying to take his "wife" from the DR or move there right now, so his wife is basically recreation for when he visits every couple of months. As far she is concerned he has not made the necessary commitment for her to give up her extracurricular activities. Until she sees a real future in the relationship not just some income then it's not likely that she will stop dating.

badpiece33 · #9 05-02-2005, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by xamaicano

He is not trying to take his "wife" from the DR or move there right now, so his wife is basically recreation for when he visits every couple of months. As far she is concerned he has not made the necessary commitment for her to give up her extracurricular activities. Until she sees a real future in the relationship not just some income then it's not likely that she will stop dating.

Cmon now!!!!! As soon as she sets foot in the USA with that visa she is leaving that loser!!!

To all you DR1 Lovers to be out there, just enjoy your time on the island and the time you spend with these girls, Dont expect anything else from these girls unless you know them really well and their families really well. That means going to DR without her knowing that your going and just show up unanounced now and then just to see whats going on.

chuckuindy · #10 05-02-2005, 09:02 PM

After a year with the same Dominican novia, who by the way is 34 years younger than me, I still never worry about her and other men. Maybe I am crazy but to this point I trust her. What else can I do? To make matters worse she works in a bar where many of the girls sell their bodies on a daily basis.

Because I go to the DR often and I know most of the girls she works with and her boss, someone would rat her out in a heartbeat, if she was fooling around. (These Dominican woman love to rat their friends out.) Anyway what difference would it make? She knows that once I find out the gravy train is over.

It’s like xamaicano said “she provides him with a young body and he provides her with material support. It is a transactional relationship”, and for now that is good enough for me. On the other hand the statement that “most young women are not going to be satisfied with only a steady diet of old man sex,” may not always be true. Us old guys know a thing or two about pleasing women of any age. Add that to the fact that many Dominican women prefer older men, for what ever reason, I am a very happy camper.

Patrick is also correct, my novia never knows when I will show up unannounced.