How to meet dominican girls...(and what NOT to do)

Berzin · #1 05-09-2005, 03:16 PM

OK you experts out there, if a man were to go to the DR with the intentions of meeting a young woman(or different women with the intention of friendship and maybe a little more) how would YOU go about doing it, knowing what you know about the culture and from your various experiences, good or bad?

We've heard all the problems having to do with sankies, working girls, blah blah blah. Here is your chance to put your expertise to the test and school some people out there who need your help.

Also, and more importantly, what NOT to do in social situations when meeting a young lady is the goal? Stories about your own personal experiences will be very much appreciated. Let's all learn from each other instead of just ragging on the poor sankies. If there is a rule here let's just agree to keep the working girl stuff out of the thread if it's OK with y'all.

juanita · #2 05-09-2005, 03:46 PM

Hang out with AZB!

ricktoronto · #3 05-09-2005, 03:56 PM

Not in the DR but in Latin America I found meeting in the usual places (in my case a supermarket checkout) with dinner dates and movies go over good since they tend (even movies) to be out of the discretionary budget range of a lot of people. The restaurants don't have to be super fancy and even TGIF is a plus (not to me) since it has that US allure and is still pretty pricey.

Since I have 3 left feet and white man rythym the daning merengue is out of the question.

And showing up (on time even if it emans waiting) is key since I guess it is not that unusual for guys to stand girls up a lot. Also making it clear a hop in the sack is not priority one the first date and either a ride home or a taxi paid for home shows courtesy and concern.

rellosk · #4 05-09-2005, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by juanita

Hang out with AZB!

Is that under the "do" or "not to do" category?

shadInToronto · #5 05-09-2005, 04:11 PM

than women in any other part of the world? I don't believe you need to be a 'Don Juan' to meet Dominican women (though you may need a lot of money depending where you meet her). Read AZB's posts and good luck man.

AZB · #6 05-09-2005, 04:18 PM

Rule # 1, Don't think like a gringo.

Get out of coastal cities ex: pop, sosua, cabarete, boca chica and any place where foreigners live.

Dress well like any decent dominican around you. This means, no shorts, no T shirts, no hawaiian shirts, no sneakers.

Speak spanish but be humorous in an original way.

take her out and if she invites a friend or a family member, take them all out and pay for them all.

Once you are dressed like the rest and are comfortable in your surrounding, visit near- by university. Walk inside and talk to girls in a calm manner. Do not act like a kid in a candy store. Go to universities : Utesa in santiago, O&M in moca and also try Utesa in moca. I would say, stick to girls in santiago Universities. Once you have better luck in Utesa, then move on to PUCMM university in santiago. Girls there are more elegant and prettier but difficult. Universities are your best bet if you would like to date decent girls who are a knock out. Go to these places after 6pm. The action stays on till 10pm at night.

Go to Ahi Bar in santiago from thrusdays till sundays. You will meet many girls there. Keep an eye conctact and see who gives you a signal.

If nothing works then go to Monumento at night on weekends and pick up a cheap slut who will perform for free. Then dump her and move on.
Good luck buddy.
AZB

Ricardo900 · #7 05-09-2005, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by AZB

Rule # 1, Don't think like a gringo.

Get out of coastal cities ex: pop, sosua, cabarete, boca chica and any place where foreigners live.

Dress well like any decent dominican around you. This means, no shorts, no T shirts, no hawaiian shirts, no sneakers.

Speak spanish but be humorous in an original way.

take her out and if she invites a friend or a family member, take them all out and pay for them all.

Once you are dressed like the rest and are comfortable in your surrounding, visit near- by university. Walk inside and talk to girls in a calm manner. Do not act like a kid in a candy store. Go to universities : Utesa in santiago, O&M in moca and also try Utesa in moca. I would say, stick to girls in santiago Universities. Once you have better luck in Utesa, then move on to PUCMM university in santiago. Girls there are more elegant and prettier but difficult. Universities are your best bet if you would like to date decent girls who are a knock out. Go to these places after 6pm. The action stays on till 10pm at night.

Go to Ahi Bar in santiago from thrusdays till sundays. You will meet many girls there. Keep an eye conctact and see who gives you a signal.

If nothing works then go to Monumento at night on weekends and pick up a cheap slut who will perform for free. Then dump her and move on.
Good luck buddy.
AZB

I will be in santiago next week and I will follow your advice to the letter, let's see what happens. Look out for my trip report

miguel · #8 05-09-2005, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Berzin

OK you experts out there, if a man were to go to the DR with the intentions of meeting a young woman(or different women with the intention of friendship and maybe a little more) how would YOU go about doing it, knowing what you know about the culture and from your various experiences, good or bad?

We've heard all the problems having to do with sankies, working girls, blah blah blah. Here is your chance to put your expertise to the test and school some people out there who need your help.

Also, and more importantly, what NOT to do in social situations when meeting a young lady is the goal? Stories about your own personal experiences will be very much appreciated. Let's all learn from each other instead of just ragging on the poor sankies. If there is a rule here let's just agree to keep the working girl stuff out of the thread if it's OK with y'all.

Berzin, this is a very, very, very insteresting and good thread!!!!!.

In my opinion, if you go to the DR with just the intentions of meeting someone, you are not giving yourself much time to find a meaningful and lasting relationship. But if you are just looking for fun, read on:

There are 2 types of relationship that would work in the DR, (1)the one that you do not want to put much efford into it and then find yourself dealing with someone that you just want to have "fun" with and then leave behind when you leave and (2)the one that you want to make an efford to keep because you feel in your heart that the person is the right one for you and you want to persue the possibilities. Both can be VERY costly if you decide to keep in contact with either situations. # one can be very cheap ONLY if you leave it behind. # 2 is VERYYYYYYYYYY expensive because a long distance relationship consists of many calls and many trips to the DR. But if you think that it's something that you, in your heart, think that can work, who cares about long distance, spending money on calls or traveling to the DR whenever you want in order to spend time with that person.

Number one can be found at any resort or just "walking down the streets". Number 2 can happen just about anywhere in the DR as long as you know in your heart that this person is someone that you see yourself being with(you know, the one that you think that is a serious person and that you want to persue it). # one= "think with little head", # two= "think with big head".

I am a true believer, now in my "old age", that the more you get to know a person, the better for the relationship. Granted, you never, fully, know a person 100% but it's much better to get to know the person than not at all.

Now, if you are just talking about a friendship relationship, where you DO NOT want to be with that person ever, you can just pick and choose with whom you want to spend time with.

Care to know why "destiny" is alive and well after so many years?. Because destiny took it's time when he/she met his/her mate!!. Hehe.

And yes, follow some of AZB's comments!!

Ps: btw, the DR is just another country. In order to meet new girls, do the same as you do in your home country. Same thing. The only change is the country, the person stays the same!.

Chris_NJ · #9 05-09-2005, 05:52 PM

I think a good way to go is by meeting them through their friends and family. Set up a network of good people as friends and they can act like match-makers. When I first went to DR in 2001 my friends from NY introduced me to a lot of friends and family. When I returned the next year solo for a 3 -month stay these younger family members were the obvious choice of whom I would hang out with.

For example, one of the first women that I met was Mary, the niece of my friend’s father’s best friend. She was nice and I could sense she was into me but I wanted keep her strictly on a friendship level. Mary and her friends took me out and showed me around Santiago and really made feel at home which was comforting as I was there alone without my friends from NY. Going out a few times as a group I met Aida who was Mary’s cousin. I was interested and subtly let Mary know about this and things just kind of took care of themselves.

So, if you have time develop a network of solid people and watch how easily things run their course.

AZB · #10 05-09-2005, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by miguel

Ps: btw, the DR is just another country. In order to meet new girls, do the same as you do in your home country. Same thing. The only change is the country, the person stays the same!.

I hope Berzin didn't fall asleep reading Mr. Cliche's post.

Now about this statement above: if girls were so friendly back home, then why do you think CC and many others are here for? I am sure they are not here to eat mondongo and johnny cake in boca chica. In simple terms: girls in back home are 100% pure b1tches from hell.
AZB