Fell for a dominican man.. finding it hard to be without him..

[drloca]

Originally Posted by Mr_DR

I am about to get sick.

Ditto!!!!!

[trina]

Originally Posted by JoeJoe

He is in university at the moment and doesn't want to come to Canada lol unlike what some of my friends would say "he is using me to get here" which is completely untrue.

I hope everything works out for you. Nearly ALL want to leave the DR, even the University-educated, so don't put much stock in this talk. Ever hear of a yola?

However, I congratulate him on the fact that he is in University. This shows drive and motivation, and he's far ahead of most of his peers in the DR.

Best of luck.

[JoeJoe]

why are you "about to get sick" .. you don't have to be so negative.. life is too short for that..

[audboogie]

Originally Posted by JoeJoe

why are you "about to get sick" .. you don't have to be so negative.. life is too short for that..

Right, but in your "short" life, why would you want it to be miserable? Or have experienced sankie drama? Most people wouldn't want to. What people are telling you is true. The best advice for you would be to take it SLOW...Whats the rush? If hes not marrying you for visa, or if he could obtain one on his own, why get married? Its just a label. Not saying that you planned on it, just that many girls here do rush to get married. Or rush to have babies with them (eeehem). Its a enormous decision to leave your life in Canada to be with him. (Im sure you've thought about it) Living in DR is usually not easy for a foreigner. (your not accustomed to it regardless of how much you think you can live without materialistic things). So if you posted looking for advice, and you truley believe that he is not a sankie bc hes not fitting the description of what you've read, and what everyone is telling you, then the best thing to do would be to get to know him. Being that your in Canada and he DR, this is obviously going to take a looooooooong time. Regardless of what anyone says, you cannot get to know someone over the phone, emails, letter. Not true. The only way would be living together. Good luck, and please look past the fact that he is dominican, brown skin, good in bed, good looking, nice, nice family, etc....if he were Canadian, would you want to be with him given his exact baggage? If he lived on one side of Canada and you the other? etc. So many of us "excuse" behaviors of Dominican men just because they are foreigners. It will end up hurting you. This is coming from someone who is married to a Dominican, so it does have some value. This is not necessarily my situation, but i've been around long enough to see some of the dirt that goes on.

[notion]

Who's talking about marriage? Did I miss anything?

[palomitamia]

Originally Posted by JoeJoe

why are you "about to get sick" .. you don't have to be so negative.. life is too short for that..

Hello JoeJoe,

don't take it too serious. In this forum people nearly always think that as soon as someone fell in love with a dominican guy, she must be saved from evil sankies, by giving her advice.

We are all free to make our own experience. So feel free+trust yourself without switching off your brains

The brainless ones can't be helped anyway, so what's the point of all these "warnings"?

Hope you are doing fine!

All the best,
Palomita

[JoeJoe]

There are bad men everywhere in the world regardless of what their background is .. a girl can get hurt no matter who they fall for.. and I am not rushing into things lol I have learned from passed experiences to just take things slowwww.. lol.. I mostly came on this website to talk to people can relate to my situation because no matter how much I tell my friends.. they won't understande these feelings when they consider a man living a couple towns away long distance..

[macocael]

Dont expect much insight from a message board. Amazes me how much people divulge on these things, and expect to learn. Forget all that. Use your native wit and common sense and you will be OK. Enjoy. The guy is not a sanky -- piecing together all your different info from two different threads, I think I can establish that. Doesnt mean he wont be after something, but then again doesnt mean he will be. I would say the worst you have to worry about is that he is just a young Dominican guy and like all young men you will have some trouble house breaking him.

But for any kind of long term thing, you are up against some obstacles. Long distance relationships are murder, and if either of the members of a couple uproot themselves in order to close the gap, that could spell trouble too. Transitions like this are not easy.

Dont sweat it though, and if you really want to talk about this thing with DR1 members, PM some of the women here and keep it private. The board is not a good place to air one's private thoughts.

[JoeJoe]

Ok thank you so much hun.. your a very nice person

[HomeIsWhereMyHeartIs]

Just keep your guard up and be careful - that is all. People have bad relationships with Canadians as well so if it goes sour it will be no worse than a relationship with a fellow Canadian - just be careful that you do not invest any money into the relationship - protect yourself.