Age difference in relationships

[Berzin]

Joke aside, DO women only go for older men for money and wealth??? - not in my experience! Women go for older men because they've GROWN UP!!! Females mature quicker than males and look for a partner of equal maturity. In addition women tend to be the more "wanting to settle and be loved" sex being the barer of children as opposed to the "seed sower"...These factors draw younger women to older men as older men are less childish, more likely to want to settle and over-all more "on their level".

Oh please. That crap about women maturing faster than men is such bs I feel like puking on my keyboard. Women always fall into the stereotypes that suit them best, but they want to be treated equally in relationships. Get off it, face the fact that maybe the guys you've dated your age were just idiots because YOU picked them that way.

So how easy it is when someone else speaks the truth for you?

[Berzin]

Originally Posted by AZB

It happens all the time. Believe me, you are considered very young in Dominican Republic. Come here and find your 20 yr old girl. There are plenty and you are in your prime age to attract them. I am 43 and I can date girls that age and can even get married. I am not talking about some poor girl from resort area slumbs. My advice would be to find a girl who studies in a university and lives with a full family in a decent sized house in a nice area. Santiago area is the prefered location to look for your mate. You should be looking into a middle class family. Just try to act more latino and less gringo. This means, look around you and see how people are dressed in the upper middle class circle and dress and act exactly the same. Ex: no shorts, no hawaiian shirts, no smoking, no sneakers and do not be a loud ugly american like we know someone in sosua. Keep a low profile and respect the people around you. You will do just fine. The majority of the tourist / expats only deal with the poorest people on this island and support their whole family, then complain.
AZB

Let me get this straight. You've said in a previous post on another thread that a tourist will never be able to date a decent middle-class chica if they do not live there. According to this logic we have to resign ourselves to the whores of Sosua.
Now you're giving advice on how a tourist can go look for a decent chica. Please explain this, as I am a little bit confused. Which one is it?

[snowqueen]

You wonder why others are so hung up on age? Well, so are you. You will only date a certain age. Certainly not every woman over 25 is repulsive. From my observations over the years, the more stipulations you make, the harder you will fall. Why not just try to meet a decent woman, and specifiy her age, height, measurements, etc. And some of the points you make for a younger woman to be with an older man, also apply to older woman. You just may be surprised with what you find out there.

[AZB]

Originally Posted by johne

what the heck is meant by -"my wife is 10 years older than me and we dont live a peaceful life -so I am getting a divorce"
Please explain this mish mosh to me in the next few hours so I can sleep better tonite without giving this too much thought.
Back in a couple of hours.
Thanks in advance for you quick reply. :>

JOHN

It means, she looks like his mother.
The older the man becomes, the younger the girls he likes.
AZB

[AZB]

Originally Posted by Berzin

Let me get this straight. You've said in a previous post on another thread that a tourist will never be able to date a decent middle-class chica if they do not live there. According to this logic we have to resign ourselves to the whores of Sosua.
Now you're giving advice on how a tourist can go look for a decent chica. Please explain this, as I am a little bit confused. Which one is it?

If you reread my post, you will have your questions answered. I know of quite a few business men in santiago area who have hooked up with decent santiagueras. now these american business men are not on beach vacations. they come here to do business in zona franca. They are usually taken out by their dominican counterparts who also hold top jobs with good salaries (not some chocolate dancer from playa naco dancing team). They are shown good places and they are often invited to dominican family fiestas. These ameriaqn business men dress well and carry on dcecent presentation (very different from your average beach tourist). They come here often (once in every 2 months). After a while they get to know many people here. Now these men have no trouble finding a good mate because they are always in good company.
I never hear these guy telling me stories of how they ended up in a wooden hut in sosua campo, and how they saw the woman sitting on dirt and breast feeding her baby and how her dad came in a motoconcho to meet you and how you were compelled to give her 200 pesos and how she called you the next day and came looking for you in bars on a motoconcho etc etc etc. Non of that cheap stuff or sobbing stories. You stay with good people and you will find what you look for, now you look for love in trash you find trash.
Its simple as that.
AZB

[Emma22]

Originally Posted by Berzin

Oh please. That crap about women maturing faster than men is such bs I feel like puking on my keyboard. Women always fall into the stereotypes that suit them best, but they want to be treated equally in relationships. Get off it, face the fact that maybe the guys you've dated your age were just idiots because YOU picked them that way.

So how easy it is when someone else speaks the truth for you?

Ummm - "truth for me"??? - You know me??? "The crap about Women maturing faster than men" is with regards to relationships (though would say it's documented that female babies walk and talk quicker than males generally :-P) It has NOTHING to do with personally me as I have never dated an older guy! I am merely offering explanation as to WHY younger girls find older men attractive OTHER than wanting their money!!! My current partner is "my age" and he is no "idiot"!!! ALL of my partners have been "my age" and NONE were idiots so cut your amateur psychology - ya ain't good at it!!
Any-ho: Male = SEED SOWER, Female = CHILD BARER (OH! responsibility!!) Younger women wanting to have a child (being female - you know, with a womb!) may VERY WELL SEEK older males to do so because they have MATURED relationship wise and this may not faze them as much (may very well have children already - but USUALLY more ready to "settle down" whatever)...younger men may not be so keen to be "tied down" in their 20s as seeds to be a sown!! IN ADDITION older males have more "life experience" hence are interesting more often than not to talk to about issues (not saying younger men are stupid, but it stands to reason older men have been about longer to get more experiences and hence have more to draw from.) ALL of these factors may very well contribute to a younger woman fancying/falling in love with an older man...NOUGHT to do with "truth about me"! Now puke away!!! LOL!!! ;-) Emma

[Safado]

Originally Posted by Emma22

Ummm - "truth for me"??? - You know me??? "The crap about Women maturing faster than men" is with regards to relationships (though would say it's documented that female babies walk and talk quicker than males generally :-P) It has NOTHING to do with personally me as I have never dated an older guy! I am merely offering explanation as to WHY younger girls find older men attractive OTHER than wanting their money!!! My current partner is "my age" and he is no "idiot"!!! ALL of my partners have been "my age" and NONE were idiots so cut your amateur psychology - ya ain't good at it!!
Any-ho: Male = SEED SOWER, Female = CHILD BARER (OH! responsibility!!) Younger women wanting to have a child (being female - you know, with a womb!) may VERY WELL SEEK older males to do so because they have MATURED relationship wise and this may not faze them as much (may very well have children already - but USUALLY more ready to "settle down" whatever)...younger men may not be so keen to be "tied down" in their 20s as seeds to be a sown!! IN ADDITION older males have more "life experience" hence are interesting more often than not to talk to about issues (not saying younger men are stupid, but it stands to reason older men have been about longer to get more experiences and hence have more to draw from.) ALL of these factors may very well contribute to a younger woman fancying/falling in love with an older man...NOUGHT to do with "truth about me"! Now puke away!!! LOL!!! ;-) Emma

I see what you're saying.....


But on the real...........it's about who's got the $$$$$$$$$$$$. ESPECIALLY in the DR if a girl isn't rich. AN older woman will go with a younger guy if she thinks he'll give her some financial stability.

[AZB]

Originally Posted by Safado

I see what you're saying.....


But on the real...........it's about who's got the $$$$$$$$$$$$. ESPECIALLY in the DR if a girl isn't rich. AN older woman will go with a younger guy if she thinks he'll give her some financial stability.

A young dominican financially secured man will never consider going out with an older woman. This is dominican republic we are talking about here. Lets not forget that.
AZB

[skyblue]

i think it all boils down to...
sex and physical attraction for older men who are with younger women
money and stability for younger women that are with older men

sex and love for older women that are with younger men
money and stability w/sex on the side for younger men that are with older women

[Jostan]

Originally Posted by skyblue

i think it all boils down to...
sex and physical attraction for older men who are with younger women
money and stability for younger women that are with older men

sex and love for older women that are with younger men
money and stability w/sex on the side for younger men that are with older women

Yeah, I think that pretty much sums it up!