Are you married to a Dominican man?

[bob saunders]

Interesting read:

I agree that family comes first, usually even before you when it comes to mom or kids.
When it comes to finances my wife although she has a different take on things than me is very good with money. She owns a number of properties in Jarabacoa and grows her holdings every year. She never buys anything unless its on sale. She budgets for everything and can really squeeze a dollar.
She hates to cook and will eat anything put in front of her.

Trina's advice on picking your battles is the best advice.

[fernandodiaz]

Hi, posting this using hubby's log in so hence my name being fernando! I am indeed married to Fernando and we live in England. We have been married over 5 years, have 2 children and are extremely happy. We met when I lived in Boca Chica and worked in charge of the kids club. He was a dancer/animator so you can imagine how unlikely people thought it was to work out! Just shows that these relationships can work out!!!!

[vince1956]

Originally Posted by azabache

I have been legally married to a Dominican woman for 6 years, For the first couple of years it was a challenge because I did not understand certain cultural differences and the economic mentality of a Dominican female at that time. It would have been great to have had access to a support group for American men who are married to Dominican women. But since this was not the case I had to learn what I know through experience and observing other American/Dominican couples.
My marriage has been a great success so far because I have learned not to be at tightwad and to be more tolerant of her cultual differences.
I think it is important to remember these things about Dominican women:

• Family is important to her, especially Mom. She will do whatever she can to see that her mother has basic needs taken care of. Support her on this as much as possible. You will gain much more than the few dollars that it will cost you.

• Dominican women do not know how to manage money. If you give her a enough to take care of a week of household expenses, she will likely spend all of the money in 1 or 2 days. Do the shopping with her if possible so you can encourage her not to buy more items than will fit in the cabinets or refrigerator/freezer. Let her take a look at the budget to so she will know where the money is going. It will help her to control her spending.

• Never let her know exactly how much money you have. Dominican women are incapable of planning for the future. She will find an urgent need for any savings that you may have.

• It's a simple concept but Dominican women seem to not understand that a dollar spent is a dollar that they don't have anymore. You will have to patiently work with her on this.

• Try not to be suspicious if she puts on a bit of make-up and wears high heels, tihjt slacks, and looks really sharp just to do the errands about town. Remember, she's Dominican.

• Keep reminding her (by way of occasional flowers and small gifts or encouraging words) that you are in her corner--you won't be sorry. If you give a Dominican woman 100% she will give you back 110%. Try it.

• Even though many Dominican women will tolerate some "stepping out" by their husband. DON'T CHEAT I guarantee you that if you do she'll somehow know about it as soon as you walk in the door. It will erode the quality of your relationship.

• Don't be afraid to say "no" when in your good judgement a "no" is the only reasonable answer. A Dominican woman does not understand the word "no" if it is said only once. She will ask you at least five times. Don't get angry...just keep quietly saying no. If your no was reasonable she won't hold a grudge.

I'm sure that there are other important things that I have left out so anyone please feel free to add to this if you think of anything.

JRF AND TINA THIS WAS POSTED BY AZABACHE CREDIT TO HIM NOT ME VINCE

[AnnaC]

I fixed it for you Vince since it was still very confusing who the original poster was.

[nikke]

Originally Posted by fernandodiaz

Hi, posting this using hubby's log in so hence my name being fernando! I am indeed married to Fernando and we live in England. We have been married over 5 years, have 2 children and are extremely happy. We met when I lived in Boca Chica and worked in charge of the kids club. He was a dancer/animator so you can imagine how unlikely people thought it was to work out! Just shows that these relationships can work out!!!!

Nice to hear something positive about the animation workers...congrats!

[vince1956]

Originally Posted by AnnaC

I fixed it for you Vince since it was still very confusing who the original poster was.

Anna thanks for that maybe i should have put it on the title some people dont read who,s post it was vince

[jrf]

thx AZABACHE anymore wise words?