What dominican men expect from thier girlfriends - Page 2

AnnaC · #11 06-03-2006, 11:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Avrora

I understand everyone is different. I wish he could talk to me normally, without anger. It has been an issue...

Honey people that have anger will never get better without help. Walk away far far away and thank your lucky stars you saw it now.

WALK AWAY

Angel_04 · #12 06-03-2006, 11:47 PM

Listen honey, I didn't want to scare you by getting into details about abusive relationships... but you know what, you probably NEED to hear what you could be getting yourself into... I will pm you.

Celt202 · #13 06-04-2006, 08:29 AM

walk away
run away

AWAY

cuas · #14 06-04-2006, 10:28 AM

If you cannot express you opinion now, what make you think if you get back together you will? People do not change. worst if they do not recognize that they have a problem. I up to you if you want to be controlled by him. For how many years? Is this being happy?
It is not only Dominican men. I am a caseworker in the Bronx and we also deal with some cases of domestic violence. My latest case is a Nigerian family.

miguel · #15 06-04-2006, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Avrora

I understand everyone is different. I wish he could talk to me normally, without anger. It has been an issue...

WALK AWAY. BETTER YET, RUNNNNNNN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!.

First of all, let me talk to you not as a Dominican but as a man.

The moment SOME guys see that a woman is changing her life to accomodate ours and if the guy is an axx-hole, he WILL take you for granted, he WILL think less of you and he will put in his heads that he can mop the floor with you.

Look at it this way: you accomodate him, he WILL control you. Trust me.

It seems that you are a little afraid of this guy and his anger(temper) so why waste your time since it will probably get worse.

I have said the following a whole bunch of times here and now I will tell it to you, just keep in mind that I formed this opinion from episodes that I have seen with my own eyes:

MOST Dominican males that I know (NOTE: I), DO feel that even after they split with someone, that they still have some type of "rights" with that person.

I have seen ex-husbands, after being divorced for a number of years, still go to the ex-wife's home and still try to order her around. SOME even threaten them telling them "if you marry or I see you with someone, I will kill you, you will always be mine".

I have seen ex-boyfriends make sure to show up at an ex-girlfriend's house just to see if she is dating someone else. If she is, he would start problems with her and the new guy.

And what's worse is that even if you are not together, not only do they think that they still own you, but they also expect you to be available for them when they want sex. NOT ALL.

Let me ask you something:

Since he has some anger and you can't talk to him(and that tells me tht you are a little afraid of him), what will happen when he slaps you around?. Are you going to accomodate that too?.

If the answer is "NO", then there goes the answer to all your questions. Therefore, cut your loses and don't look back.

Good luck. You will need it if you decide to give him another try.

Btw, there are a whole bunch of guys, out there, that will accept you JUST THE WAY YOU ARE, without you having to change one ounce. You just need to look for them in the right places.

Angel_04 · #16 06-04-2006, 11:05 AM

I agree totally with what Miguel has said... it's all very true.

Randy1 · #17 06-04-2006, 11:57 AM

Miguel,
The reason for all this is just jelousy. Some men just cannot stand that the woman he had as a girlfriend now have sex with another guy. Most of these men have very low self estimate you will never tell if you see them they may seem very confident and completly satisfied with themselves but this is not tru. Deep in side they feel unsatisfied with that who they are this is the reason.
The other thing for women to know: if your your man hit you once and you will forgive he will hit you again. the men who beet their women do not love them even more they do not respect them so I am agreed with Miguel that you should RUN ASAP from them.