What dominican men expect from thier girlfriends

Alyonka · #1 06-03-2006, 09:57 PM

What do Dominican men expect from their girlfriends in terms of views and behavior? Do they like traditional approach - woman at home, no opinion or initiative? Would they like a woman who has her own life and career? Would they get together with a girlfriend after a break up if she wanted to and changed her behavior to adjust to him even if the break up was difficult and painful for both where both dated other people although hated each other for doing it?

rellosk · #2 06-03-2006, 10:11 PM

Avrora, welcome to DR1!

Since I am not Dominican I have no answers for you, but your last question sounds like it should be directed to your ex.

Alyonka · #3 06-03-2006, 10:16 PM

Thanks! I am too scared to ask him, he is so angry at me

Dragonfly32837 · #4 06-03-2006, 10:27 PM

Each person expects different variations of things. Maybe you should just talk it out with him.

Alyonka · #5 06-03-2006, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Dragonfly32837

Each person expects different variations of things. Maybe you should just talk it out with him.

I understand everyone is different. I wish he could talk to me normally, without anger. It has been an issue...

Angel_04 · #6 06-03-2006, 11:19 PM

First of all, as already said, every relationship is different, and no one on here can tell you what every Dominican man expects.. most are pretty traditional with strong family values and have a very different way of looking at things than men in N.America... it's a very different culture than what I am sure you are used to. Sorry, but I am making an assumption that you are from N.America? (I apologize if you are not).

From my own experience, and my countless discussions on the topic with Dominican men... I would have to say, MOST Dominican men, it seems, do NOT like to have anything to do with ex girlfriends. They are very "territorial", if I may use that word--they wouldn't want to see their FRIENDS or any other man for that matter with that girl.. but they don't care to be friends with her. Now, if he is a sanky (hate to bring that up) then even more so... he would just let it go and move on to the next one. I can't tell you how many guys I know that have said, "oh no, over here, when we break up, that is it... we cannot be friends!" .. who knows... this is just what I have learned over the years.

Btw, if he is angry now and you are worried, perhaps you are better off leaving him alone and cutting your loses... if you are afraid and can't even talk to him, then that is no kind of relationship that you want any part of... you wouldn't want that escalating into some form of abuse...

Randy1 · #7 06-03-2006, 11:30 PM

Everyone is different but at the same time we all have something in common

i am not dominican but I have spoken with them regarding this, and not only dominican, and what I found out was that they expect from their girlfriends the same what I do.
if there was a brake up and after that we dated different people i do not think i would get back what sense??? Also it depends on what you mean by dating whether you had sex or not

rellosk · #8 06-03-2006, 11:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Angel_04

First of all, as already said, every relationship is different, and no one on here can tell you what every Dominican man expects.. most are pretty traditional with strong family values and have a very different way of looking at things than men in N.America... it's a very different culture than what I am sure you are used to. Sorry, but I am making an assumption that you are from N.America? (I apologize if you are not).

From my own experience, and my countless discussions on the topic with Dominican men... I would have to say, MOST Dominican men, it seems, do NOT like to have anything to do with ex girlfriends. They are very "territorial", if I may use that word--they wouldn't want to see their FRIENDS or any other man for that matter with that girl.. but they don't care to be friends with her. Now, if he is a sanky (hate to bring that up) then even more so... he would just let it go and move on to the next one. I can't tell you how many guys I know that have said, "oh no, over here, when we break up, that is it... we cannot be friends!" .. who knows... this is just what I have learned over the years.

Btw, if he is angry now and you are worried, perhaps you are better off leaving him alone and cutting your loses... if you are afraid and can't even talk to him, then that is no kind of relationship that you want any part of... you wouldn't want that escalating into some form of abuse...

This is a very wise post.

Avrora, pay particular attention to the last paragraph. If you search through the archives you'll find a few horror stories about some violent relationships.

gary short · #9 06-03-2006, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Avrora

I understand everyone is different. I wish he could talk to me normally, without anger. It has been an issue...

Walk away do not turn around.

Randy1 · #10 06-03-2006, 11:45 PM

If your man talk to you angerly i cannot call this relationship you need to leave him and as ssoon as possible. it is not about dominican men it is about the man you are dated.