can it really happen

[skyblue]

people just don't want to see the truth until they are broke and heartbroken.

[Emma22]

Me have question : WHY marry?? How long have you known this guy?? - You KNOW him well enough to marry?? You KNOW this guy "hand on heart"?? I have no problem with "risk taking" (Hell! I'm going to visit the big, fat, dangerous DR as far as those Brits I've met here have told me...man, I'm "hard as nails" to have not cancelled my flights already!!!LOL!!!) BUUUT there is "risk taking" and "RISK TAKING"!!! Take it slow pleeease! GET to know this chap WELL - like until you know his faults and are able to tolerate them - until you regard him your best mate as well as your partner - until you know all there is to know about him...THEN marry him!! Your chances of a happy marriage will be multiplied 100 times over if you follow my advice...I don't mean to come across as "rude" - I (after all!!) have NO idea IN THE WORLD how long you have known this guy for OR how long you have spent in his company...but you be 100% sure before committing yourself to marriage! I wish you the very best and hope your guy doesn't turn out any other way than you want him to be! JUST be careful and heed advice from others on here - keep it in your memory and be ready to run if all goes "t**s up!" ATB!!! Emma

[Nelly]

The reality is that the risk is VERY high and that there are very, very FEW happy endings.

[Emma22]

Originally Posted by Nelly

The reality is that the risk is VERY high and that there are very, very FEW happy endings.

^^^My thinking EXACTLY!!^^^

[Alyonka]

There is always a risk in any marriage or relationship. I would think - do I want to marry that person? What would it take me to make this work? What would happen if it did not work out? There is always a way out of any situation - make sure you protect yourself and your money in any case. I would actually live with him for a while to see how it goes. Maybe you will loose interest in him without marrying.

[Emma22]

Originally Posted by Avrora

There is always a risk in any marriage or relationship. I would think - do I want to marry that person? What would it take me to make this work? What would happen if it did not work out? There is always a way out of any situation - make sure you protect yourself and your money in any case. I would actually live with him for a while to see how it goes. Maybe you will loose interest in him without marrying.

Very true Avrora - the trick is to minimise risk as you say...loooong before ya marry them!!!! I personally wouldn't consider marriage before knowing EXACTLY what I'm getting myself into!!! Such is my advise: KNOW this person WELL (warts an all!) before marriage!!! Emma

[Malibook]

There have been some success stories here on DR1 which is but a drop in the bucket.
Successful Relationships!! Dominican Style!

Find a good one and increase your odds dramatically.
What sets apart a good Dominican man from a Sankie?

[sarita]

hi i met my husband whilst living in the dr. in september we have been married 2 yrs and we have a 16mth old son together. we are still very happy and very much in love. good luck but be careful. our relationship progressed quite quickly but we were living in the same country and spending lots of time together so i think this helped a lot. he is my best friend and husband all rolled into one and i cant imagine my life without him. hope things work out for you.

[nikke]

Go down there for at least 6 months to a year and see what happens. Then you might (or might not) feel more comfortable about getting married and taking on sponsorship responsibility.

[drloca]

If you have hesitations now, RUN!!! Listen to your head and not your heart. I dont think living together down there changes a thing personally...at the end of the day, you will always be his ticket out. They ALL use the reverse psychology that they dont want to leave their beloved pais....just being brutally honest. Good luck in your decision.