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07-08-2006, 10:56 PM
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can it really happen
Hey everyone just needed a place to feel comfortable and actually hear some good about dominican men.People can be so harsh and quick to judge.They are only after ur money they only want a visa.I went through it all and i would love to hear that its going to be alright as long as ur have the love factor.I been going to the DR for 4 yrs now and the man I am to marry would fit the stereotype of a dominican man wanting out of the country.He comes from a poor family. (however they are extremly wealthy with their hospitality.)
They don't ask me for money he takes great care of me when I am there,he
is proud to have me with him and he doesn't push me to get married but would love to be married to me and we don't have to live in Canada.But don't get me wrong I do have my moment when I wonder if it's reality to have him come here.Especially when I have a friend who only sees the negative about it .It just feels that there isn't any support or anyone who understands.I am my own person but it does help to know there are happy endings because I know there are alot more endings that are not so happy.
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07-09-2006, 03:04 AM
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Take it easy....
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please post a picture of yourself and him and I will fill you in in all the details.
tell me where did you meet him? was it a resort?
AZB
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07-09-2006, 06:14 AM
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Originally Posted by jenfau
he takes great care of me when I am there,he
is proud to have me with him and he doesn't push me to get married but would love to be married to me and we don't have to live in Canada.But don't get me wrong I do have my moment when I wonder if it's reality to have him come here.Especially when I have a friend who only sees the negative about it .It just feels that there isn't any support or anyone who understands.I am my own person but it does help to know there are happy endings because I know there are alot more endings that are not so happy.
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Hi Jenfau
Why do you ask??If he is so great,if he loves you,if he is proud of you and more if you are proud of him and if he really care of you where is the problem???
If he is your man,your lover,your friend and he support you in each way.What is the problemo?
Or maybe your inner voice is breaking your peace???Do not ask us.Ask yourself.
Wish you luck
Momita 
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07-09-2006, 11:07 AM
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Thanks Momita my inner voice speaks very loudly for us its the rest of the world that can make it difficult.Just wanted to talk to someone positive for a change.
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07-09-2006, 11:20 AM
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Jenfau,
The best thing you could do is to move to the Dominican Republic for at least 6 months to a year. Live together and try to make a life. If you both still want to be together after a few months, then you will know its "reality". I was not able to do this and married my Dominican husband after 5 years. When he moved to Canada, he could not adapt to our culture so he didn't last here very long. I think if our bond was stonger, he may have been able to endure. We haven't seen each other in over a year but we still love each other very much. Unfortunately, in my case, love is not enough. You really need to read through the Sankie forum and take the comments very seriously especially if your beau is animaccion/dancer/tour operator. I'm sorry to point fingers but men in these occupations seem to have the most contact with tourists and to be qualified for same, are usually very outgoing and charming.
Good luck to you,
Nelly
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07-09-2006, 11:43 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2006
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Originally Posted by jenfau
Hey everyone just needed a place to feel comfortable and actually hear some good about dominican men.People can be so harsh and quick to judge.They are only after ur money they only want a visa.I went through it all and i would love to hear that its going to be alright as long as ur have the love factor.I been going to the DR for 4 yrs now and the man I am to marry would fit the stereotype of a dominican man wanting out of the country.He comes from a poor family. (however they are extremly wealthy with their hospitality.)
They don't ask me for money he takes great care of me when I am there,he
is proud to have me with him and he doesn't push me to get married but would love to be married to me and we don't have to live in Canada.But don't get me wrong I do have my moment when I wonder if it's reality to have him come here.Especially when I have a friend who only sees the negative about it .It just feels that there isn't any support or anyone who understands.I am my own person but it does help to know there are happy endings because I know there are alot more endings that are not so happy.
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It would be a mistake to try to live for your friends.
The way I see it Jenfau, is that taking risks is part of living a normal life.
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07-09-2006, 01:01 PM
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Originally Posted by azabache
It would be a mistake to try to live for your friends.
The way I see it Jenfau, is that taking risks is part of living a normal life.
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yeah but this "mistake" could potentially wreck her life, as we've learned on here that you are responsible for your spouse even after separation...so the best advice one could give is advice that is already given...move down there for year and see how it goes.
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07-09-2006, 02:38 PM
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Originally Posted by audboogie
yeah but this "mistake" could potentially wreck her life, as we've learned on here that you are responsible for your spouse even after separation...so the best advice one could give is advice that is already given...move down there for year and see how it goes.
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Certainly there's more than one way to look at a situation like this--but I put the question to you. Do you cloister yourself in your house so that nothing bad can ever happen to you? Have you ever taken a chance about anything or anyone ? Personally, I have never gained anything of value without risking something. Whatever the best advice might be, ultimately the decision will have to be her's, not her friend's or anyone else's.
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07-09-2006, 02:52 PM
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Originally Posted by jenfau
It just feels that there isn't any support or anyone who understands.I am my own person but it does help to know there are happy endings because I know there are alot more endings that are not so happy.
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There are many happy endings and hopefully yours will be one of them.
Good luck.
http://www.torontosun.com/News/Colum...75654-sun.html
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07-09-2006, 03:06 PM
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Originally Posted by azabache
Certainly there's more than one way to look at a situation like this--but I put the question to you. Do you cloister yourself in your house so that nothing bad can ever happen to you? Have you ever taken a chance about anything or anyone? Personally, I have never gained anything of value without risking something. Whatever the best advice might be, ultimately the decision will have to be her's, not her friend's or anyone else's.
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Absolutely true, but surely any advice to reduce the risk is very good.
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