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Originally Posted by Dragonfly32837
I wouldn't mind sharing that kind of stuff with my boyfriend but it would be a definite no-no if he wanted to be checking up on my emails and to see who calls me and so forth. That shows that there is no trust. Without trust, there is nothing.
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Dragonie, let me tell you a little secret about guys, or people in general:
We NEVER, EEEEEEEVER ask a woman for her email address or cell phone code unless we want to snoop around!.
What's the point?. We are not going to ask for it and then just "sit on it".
Btw, the same goes when a woman asks her boyfriend.
Trust me, all they want to do is snoop around because in some way, shape or form, they either don't trust their partner or are NOT secured in their own skins.
For the love of GOD, we are talking about g/f's and boyfriends here!. We are not talking about a wife!.
Why give a person who may NOT be in your life for a long time so much/many rights?. Even if you think they are going to be with you for a long time, you shouldn't give them that right.
My motto is this:
You want to invade my privacy?, fine, I will let you invade it the moment I see you paying my mortgages, paying my credit cards bills, paying my cell phone bill, paying my cable, my gas and electricity bills AND give me a 300 dollars allowance every week!.
If you can't or wouldn't, then KISS MY ASS and get away from my face!!.
See how simple.
In my book, it has NOTHING to do if I have something to hide or not, it has nothing to do with control. It's has to do, again, with a person's right to privacy!.
Btw, there's nothing wrong with telling your partner:
"you don't trust me, there's the door, don't let it hit you on your ass".
When are SOME of you people going to understand that the moment you let someone invade your privacy, they WILL not stop there?!. It's only the beginning.
After that, then they will start, slowly but surely, to tell you what to do, who to see, how to dress and so on. Only problems comes AFTER giving someone so much rights.
Let me give you guys an scenario and keep in mind that it applies to both genders:
Suppose you give your boyfriend your email's password and he logs in to snoop around. He comes across an email from an ex-boyfriend of yours, with whom you have kept in contact. It just happened that he sent you a picture of the 2 of you from that "great vacation you guys had in Hawaii", you know, the one where you the two of you are in bed sucking face.
Now, what do you think is going to happen:
1- Would he be happy and congratulate you for selecting such a great room?.
Or:
2- Would he be mad as hell and WILL start arguing with you?.
You guys do the math!
Nuff said!.
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