Can YOU "Land" A Good Dominican? - Page 11

miguel · #**101** 10-04-2006, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Avrora

Somehow a lot of these threads turn into something similar to the thread that was closed "What is the big deal ...."

I am trying to get it back on track.

AZB's rants about Santiago and University girls, about who is a puta, a chopa or a lowlife is a common "thing" here.

Now, let's hope he keeps his end of the bargain and answer the question I asked.

You know, that since he knows so much about EVERYTHING Dominican, to tell us poor lost foreigners how to "land" a good Dominican.

lalla · #**102** 10-04-2006, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by AZB

When I travel, usually a dominican friend takes me to the airport in his / her own car and then they even come to pick me up as well. Once I left keys with a girl and when I came back, my house was shiny clean. Yes, she had cleaned it for me while I was gone. My friends often treat me in restaurants and bars and often invite me to their private fiestas, not to mention weekend swimming pool parties etc. Yes, I am still talking about dominicans and no, they are not the tiny 1% that many of you tiny minds seem to think. There are many well to do dominicans and no, they won't put up with your narrow perception of this island. They just don't like explaining things to you folks who seemed to have gotten stuck in sosua and puerto plata mentality.
AZB

You are being given in return what you dish out. Your good to your friends, they are good to you, and they are NOT expecting anything in return other then friendship, and hey, if something else comes along with that, great.

And that should also answer avora's question.... dominican people over all are VERY generous and when they do things they do it from the heart. it is our nature to be giving. YES OF COURSE they like to be GIVEN things, but really, who doesnt right? but mostly, when they consider you a friend, no matter how poor or rich they or you are, they give from the heart.

I went to DR 2 yrs ago and was in my in laws house and I hadnt met a lot of older friends of the family, by the time we left a few days later, i had so many "dulces" to take home i couldve opened a bodega myself back home LOL.. People hardly knew me and they took the time to me make something, no matter how small the gift, the fact that they showed the interest in wanting to send me off with a little something was just a demonstration of their kind spirit. NOT ONE OF THEM asked for anything nor stood around waiting for us to hand them ANYTHING. We rented a car from a dealership my husbands cousins cousins cousins (u get it) owns and he would not take A PENNY from us, nor did he ask us "send me something from the US pls". never.... al contrario, he came back and gave us a gift to take home with us.

these people are naturally generous!

M.A.R. · #**103** 10-04-2006, 01:10 PM

Just a nice little story I wanted to inject in here. When I was coming back in August, while making a call at the calling center in STI, I left my address/planner book behind. I could not remember where I had left it. A few days later I get an email from the girl at the calling center telling me I had left my book there. I almost fell out of my chair, wow that was sooo nice of her to do that. Next time I go back I want to bring her a gift, I was sooo grateful.

lalla · #**104** 10-04-2006, 01:12 PM

Be generous, and i dont mean just with material things.

Be generous with your time, with your listening.
Understand that dominicans are looking for friendships, NOT just a quick way out. They appreciate genuine people as they are genuine poeple with high morals. (overall)
The can see RIGHT thru people that want to come and just flash a few bucks, throw it around and announce "look i travel and have money, u want some of it? what do you have for me?".

If you go, truly go to ENJOY yourself and to take in the country and its beauty and the amazing people. if you focus on that, you wont need to worry about LANDING anyone..... people will naturally migrate to you and you might just find someone that is intrigued by you, not ur money, ur passport or the possibilites and opportunities you can offer them.

You will always have a con artist trying to get something out of you, or a desperate person who needs something for their child or sick mother etc...if you can, and if you want, hand them a buck, no strings attached and dont make them feel like a begger and make them think they have to DO SOMETHING for that dollar, give it to them cos you want to do something nice (not get laid either), and most of the time, you might see the softer, non con artist side of the person emerge....sometimes they come across as they are expected to come across by many that have a perception......

its so hard to put into words you know? but if you are genuine (i.e. not a sucker) it will show!

Alyonka · #**105** 10-04-2006, 01:18 PM

This is why I love reading about this country, I think, because it seems so just like where I was born. People don't smile to you just to be polite like in the US, they can actually be interested in you if you are genuinely interested in them. There is a lot of fake things, people and emotions in the US I noticed - looks nice on the outside but nothing inside.

miguel · #**106** 10-04-2006, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by AZB

When I travel, usually a dominican friend takes me to the airport in his / her own car and then they even come to pick me up as well. Once I left keys with a girl and when I came back, my house was shiny clean. Yes, she had cleaned it for me while I was gone. My friends often treat me in restaurants and bars and often invite me to their private fiestas, not to mention weekend swimming pool parties etc. Yes, I am still talking about dominicans and no, they are not the tiny 1% that many of you tiny minds seem to think. There are many well to do dominicans and no, they won't put up with your narrow perception of this island. They just don't like explaining things to you folks who seemed to have gotten stuck in sosua and puerto plata mentality.
AZB

AZB, you know that a relationship, whether it's with friends, a person you want to court or your family, it a "give and take situation".

Try doing the following experiment and you will see how much your friends "love you":

All of a sudden, let them pay for EVERYTHING, all the time. When they take you to eat, let them pay, when they take you to the airport, don't help them with the gas, when you invite them to your house, ask them to bring the drinks and foods you guys will consume, ask them for money and NEVER pay them back, etc. etc.....

I can assure you they will label you a "lambon", a lowlife and someone who is taking advantage of them (among 10,000 other labels) and in no time they WILL wave "goodbye" to you. And I am sure you will do the same to them if the roles were reversed.

See, it's a give and take thingie.

I do for you, you do for me. I do for you all the time and you don't do for me: "the hell with you, adios!". Common sense!.

happy · #**107** 10-04-2006, 02:13 PM

Now wait a minute, you have to get to know someone. How else will you get to know someone if they don't call you. Goodness. Also, I am not judging all Dominican men based on my experiences because if I meet another who knows what may happen. I wanted to share my experience based on the post. I just think that it is interesting.

I also got some advice from a family member who said don't mess with Dominican men because they treat their women horribly.

I don't judge any class of people by personal experience. I think that every class has their ups and their downs.

And of course, like I read on here men think of only one thing when they first see you anyway. Wow, that would be ashame if just because you give someone your number, they think that you are easy. Do MOST if not ALL Dominican men think that? For me, if that is true, forget it.

happy · #**108** 10-04-2006, 02:19 PM

Oh and I am not commenting on Sankies. Unfortunately, I don't think that this guy fit that description. He wasn't a Black dominicano, but I guess a white dominicano from one of the wealthy places in Dominican republic. A city where I have read on here is where you would find a decent Dominican Male.

miguel · #**109** 10-04-2006, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by happy

Now wait a minute, you have to get to know someone. How else will you get to know someone if they don't call you. Goodness. Also, I am not judging all Dominican men based on my experiences because if I meet another who knows what may happen. I wanted to share my experience based on the post. I just think that it is interesting.

I also got some advice from a family member who said don't mess with Dominican men because they treat their women horribly.

I don't judge any class of people by personal experience. I think that every class has their ups and their downs.

And of course, like I read on here men think of only one thing when they first see you anyway. Wow, that would be ashame if just because you give someone your number, they think that you are easy. Do MOST if not ALL Dominican men think that? For me, if that is true, forget it.

Listen, since I will try and "behave" on this thread, let me explain something to you:

NOBODY said YOU were easy. The post/commet said that maybe HE thought you were easy.

Now, if you were going to visit that State often, if you were "down" with driving or flying often to invest time with that person, by all means, give your phone number away.

BUT:

If you were just going for the weekend and not return for a long while, then what's the point in giving your number?.

Btw, do you know ALL Dominican Sankies to write that, that guy was not a Sankie because he was not a "Black Dominican"?. So much to learn!.

Btw 2: AZB, we are still waiting!!.

Alyonka · #**110** 10-04-2006, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by happy

Now wait a minute, you have to get to know someone. How else will you get to know someone if they don't call you. Goodness. Also, I am not judging all Dominican men based on my experiences because if I meet another who knows what may happen. I wanted to share my experience based on the post. I just think that it is interesting.

I also got some advice from a family member who said don't mess with Dominican men because they treat their women horribly.

They will treat you the way you allow them to. If he called you at 2:00 a.m. and you picked up that phone - he probably already thinks you are easy. They are like children - like testing limits on what they can do with you. If you want to be treated nice - you have to show them that there is no other way. And they will adjust if they care about you. Otherwise - no reason to speak to that person at all.