Can YOU "Land" A Good Dominican? - Page 3

planner · #21 10-02-2006, 11:51 PM

I think this is an interesting thread! Please try to keep it on topic and then maybe it should become a sticky!

IT interests me to read what you all think. For those who know me I live and work here. I am a single North American woman not the least interested in short term crappy relationships! Unfortunately there is a reputation out there that we are all judged with.

I think your red flags are awesome Miguel. I will give some thought to this and add some more.

First: beware of any man who uses the word "love" within the first 7 days! Also watch for phrases like: you have changed my life. I don't want a visa. I love my country.

Okay, tell me where us foreigners who live here can meet decent Dominican men? I do know some of the answers but I want to hear it from you guys!

gary short · #22 10-02-2006, 11:56 PM

You want to hear where to meet decent Dominican men, from the guys.......oh geez....here we go...

Robert · #23 10-03-2006, 12:06 AM

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Originally Posted by gary short

You want to hear where to meet decent Dominican men, from the guys.......oh geez....here we go...

Hehehehe.. I just burnt my nose, ouch that coffee was hot!

miguel · #24 10-03-2006, 12:07 AM

[QUOTE=Berzin;442297]Miguel,
where is this thread going? Our man in Santiago describes his city as a playboys' paradise, but you would have to live there. So scratch that idea for us tourists.

*****According to AZB, Santiago is God's greater creation*****

Then again, the topic is how to find ONE PERSON(a dominican/a) to develop a friendship/romance/eventual marriage, is it not?

*****Indeed*****

So maybe AZB should be banned from this thread, as he does not seem to be the "settling down" type.

(We can let him back in as long as he promises to pull down his "Death to Miguel" banners)

*****NOOOO, he should not be banned from this thread, the man knows how to keep a thread going with all his knowledge of everything Dominican. Even if the "death to Miguel" comments are a broken record, I welcome them. It makes me aware that he "loves" me (OOOPS, me saying "love" when saying something to a man, oh boy my gayness side is showing again, haha)*****

What I think-just like with anyone else, go to the DR-pick out a chica you like and hope she does'nt lie too much. If you marry her hope she either-

A) gives you at least a few good months before she runs off with some
dominican chopo here in the states or:
B) she does'nt drive you so crazy with her campo mentality that you'll divorce her in six weeks.

***** But how is a person supposed to know if she is a liar from afar. NOT everybody is desperate to just pick a girl, any girl. Your 2 examples can be "taken care of" if the person truly takes the time to get to know the other person well*****

My opinion is if you want them to stay "good" don't bring them to the states. Let them love you from afar. If it does'nt work out at least you don't have anything to clean up. Just forget about it and start all over again.

*****Yes, MANY think this way but do you rather worry about what she is doing back home when you are not around?. Darned if you do, darned if you don't*****

Ps: Why do you think I laugh at those people claiming " My Dominican is different, I have known her/him for 2 years", when in fact they have spent 2 weeks out of those 2 years getting to know one another?. Give me a darn break!!!.

Gary Short:

FUNNY SHYT!!!. Thanks!.

Malibook · #25 10-03-2006, 12:32 AM

"pick out a chica you like ..."

Are we talking about clubbing them and dragging them by the hair?

Robert · #26 10-03-2006, 01:03 AM

It's really funny how people are labeled and it's amazing how early some sectors of society outside and here in the DR label people, sankies, chopos etc etc. So don't feel bad if your fat, old and a bleached haired gringa, your not being singled out. The Dominican elite do it from a very early age, hehehehe.

Last week I was doing a favor for some friends and I dropped off and picked up one of their sons and his friends going to a 14yr olds birthday party at the Santo Domingo Country Club. Nice place, members only, expensive annual membership, Porches, BMW's etc, you get the picture. Even AZB couldn't get in to this place

Anyway....

Listening to the two kids talking about the people at the party was very funny. Kind of reminds me of these types of threads.

* Some older girl from Peru was dancing all night, so all the other girls labeled her a "cuero" (hooker).

* The friend of the son has dark skin, so he was labeled as a potential trouble maker, smoker, drinker or drug dealer. The kids 14 for god's sake! He was not on the guest list, but still managed to talk his way in, I think he has a future in politics here

* Friends son was labeled as a "pero" (dog) as he can actually dance.
Yes, mum and dad sent him to dance classes with one of the best teachers in the capital, who say's white boy's can't dance!

* In the words of the two kids. All the girls at the party where "muy respectuso" (very respectful) but still "come meirdas" (sh$! eaters). I tried to explain to them that in a few years all that would change, hehehehe.

Back to the thread...

It looks like good and bad Dominicans come from both ends of the social scale, despite what some posters might lead you to believe. Then again, I guess it all depends on what you consider good or bad?

Moca · #27 10-03-2006, 01:32 AM

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Originally Posted by miguel

NOOOOOOOOOOOOTE: This is for those looking for a serious and meaningful relationship with a Dominican. If you are just looking to get "laid" and nothing more, disregard this thread!.

SOME of us talk and talk and talk about how well we know Dominicans, how great they are and how easy they are to "land" (hook-up with).

Now, let's prove it, let's help those looking to "land" a good Dominican. Let's warn them about the many "red flags" out there.

From my part, I will start with some "red flags" which are nothing but common sense!:

9- If he/she takes you to meet their family, don't think it's such a big deal. A Decent Dominican WILL NOT take you to meet his/her family after a week of knowing you. A LOT of decent Dominican DO care what their family and neighbors think of them, and unless they know for a fact that you are a decent and good person, then they will bring you around. But first he/she will talk and talk and talk about you and THEN, after months, maybe, they will bring you to meet their loved ones.

The above are SOME of my common sense!.

Ok guys, help me out here!. Write some of your "red flags".

Let's try and help some of these people "land" a good Dominican. Not that they will listen to us but at least we can try. If one listens, it would be worth it!!.

Miguel,

This thread seeks to help and your red flags all are good ones that will do just that.

Stealing from an old thread that discussed "Te quiero" and "Te amo", I would

say anyone telling you "te amo" within a week, if not a day, is insincere.

Just like meeting the family, which I included in my quote of your original

post, this is an event that most likely won't happen for quite some time.

It took my current novia almost a year before she said "te amo". It took

about the same length of time before I met her mother.

Kyle · #28 10-03-2006, 08:06 AM

if she tells you she does not date guys for money, THERE IS A GIANT RED FLAG !! she probably is a ***A-IN-DISGUISE. no decent dominican girl would ever mention "***a" in their conversation.

lalla · #29 10-03-2006, 09:09 AM

Bueno,

Mig,

You hit it spot on......

but let me give it a bit of a twist from a females point of view- a dominican female at THAT......

Dominican men, all want a trophy wife, ALL want a beautiful morenita with the long dark hair and killer curves that kicks AXX in the kitchen, NOTHING MAKES a dominican man prouder then boasting about his womans culinary skills..... Ella esta BUENISIMA, y cocina como no te imaginas......and deep down most are dogs, yes most i said. And that is due, as we have beat the subject to death, to the way men are raised in our society.

They are the few that like NA women, hey, they get tired of seeing the same sort of women at home, and they like what is bought to the table from a NA woman, they appreciate the cultural difference, embrace it. Its a beautiful thing, but he will get slammed by SOMEONE in his family for it (although most come mierda will boast "juancito se consiguio una blanquita) but they will always make her feel like an outsider "ah tu no sabes de eso, eso es algo dominicano"...normal.

BUT in the end you know how to land a GOOD DOMINICAN MAN???? Make him fall head over heels for you, however you chose to do it.....once a dominican man has FALLEN HARD for his girl, he's got eyes only for her. A dominican man is a hard player, but he loves hard as well, and there is nothing sweeter then a man in LOVE, truly in LOVE with his woman.....So even a dog can be converted (IF HE WANTS TOO!!!), its not about "go here or there" to meet a good man, sometimes, life puts people in your path in the least expected of places and the most amazing encounters happen.... IT all comes down to YOU and HIM- the chemistry

Malibook · #30 10-03-2006, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Berzin

My opinion is if you want them to stay "good" don't bring them to the states. Let them love you from afar. If it does'nt work out at least you don't have anything to clean up. Just forget about it and start all over again.

Do you inform her of your intentions or do you dangle the visa carrot in front of her face?