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[Aces_1605]

My story is a little long and I would love any input from the expertise I have seen here

It all started about 6 years ago. I traveller 2-3 times ayear to Santo Domingo with a friend of mine who travels several times a year for work. ( Canadian company in Santo Domingo). On these trip I have met a man who was a teacher in a local school. We became very good friends and I always looked forward to seeing him when I returned. However in 2003 due to changes in my work schedule I was unable to continue the trips as before.

Fast forward 3 yrs a group of my girlfirends and I decided to take a vacation to Punta Cana AI. Within the first day I was sitting by the pool only to hear someone calling my name. IT WAS HIM!! Shocked would be an understatement for both of us. We spent the next several hours catching up and needless to say I was pleasantly surprised. He is now working in Animation at this AI.

I guess my concerns are as following;
1) why would someone leave a teaching job to work in animation?

2) We have stayed in contact since however, I have also read many threads on this site and is it true about ALL animation? Did he change jobs to become a Sankie?

3) I know there has been sucessful relationships, could this possibly be one?

I will note he has never asked me for anything and he calls as much as I call him ( we take turns)

I am really confused right now and any input would be great

[shadInToronto]

Originally Posted by Aces_1605

My story is a little long and I would love any input from the expertise I have seen here

It all started about 6 years ago. I traveller 2-3 times ayear to Santo Domingo with a friend of mine who travels several times a year for work. ( Canadian company in Santo Domingo). On these trip I have met a man who was a teacher in a local school. We became very good friends and I always looked forward to seeing him when I returned. However in 2003 due to changes in my work schedule I was unable to continue the trips as before.

Fast forward 3 yrs a group of my girlfirends and I decided to take a vacation to Punta Cana AI. Within the first day I was sitting by the pool only to hear someone calling my name. IT WAS HIM!! Shocked would be an understatement for both of us. We spent the next several hours catching up and needless to say I was pleasantly surprised. He is now working in Animation at this AI.

I guess my concerns are as following;
1) why would someone leave a teaching job to work in animation? ... better business opportunites. New batch of clients/customers every week.

2) We have stayed in contact since however, I have also read many threads on this site and is it true about ALL animation? Did he change jobs to become a Sankie? ... sankie's mo - keep in contact with clients, like Ma Bell ... reach out and touch!!!!!!

3) I know there has been sucessful relationships, could this possibly be one? ... you haven't started one yet, why ask if it will be successful?

I will note he has never asked me for anything and he calls as much as I call him ( we take turns) ... Don't be impatient, he'll start soon ... just the way he likes it, the line has been cast, wait for the nibble, then start reeling in the catch

I am really confused right now and any input would be great

You're not the only one. Many other tourists (perhaps males and females, they swing both ways) are in the same emotional state.

Btw, welcome to DR1 .... read Mars for your answers!!!!

[AnnaC]

Welcome to DR1

I would think that he would have been the best person to answer your question as to why he left the teaching profession to go into animacion. At least you would have had some kind of answer whether it was true or not.

Best advice is take your time. After 6 years he might have a Dominican wife and children.

[Aces_1605]

Thank you both for the Welcome

I did ask why he changed jobs and he indicated that he makes more money this way. ( A little confusing since he now has to travel 5 hours one way just to work for 3000 more peso a month according to him)

Also, I may not have indicated in the previous post but I DO really like him and have been discussing with him to return to visit for a longer period of time.

As far as family goes, he showed me pictures of his daughter who is 11 now ( I knew of this child) and that he had another daughter in 2004 but according to him " he did not love his baby's mother it was just relaxation"

I want to believe what he says, but being foreign to this culture and after reading everything it has made me rethink many things he has said

[shadInToronto]

Originally Posted by Aces_1605

Thank you both for the Welcome

I did ask why he changed jobs and he indicated that he makes more money this way. ( A little confusing since he now has to travel 5 hours one way just to work for 3000 more peso a month according to him) ... Remittance "tips" from overseas customers do add up!!!!

Also, I may not have indicated in the previous post but I DO really like him and have been discussing with him to return to visit for a longer period of time.

As far as family goes, he showed me pictures of his daughter who is 11 now ( I knew of this child) and that he had another daughter in 2004 but according to him " he did not love his baby's mother it was just relaxation"

I want to believe what he says, but being foreign to this culture and after reading everything it has made me rethink many things he has said

Well a few .... Please don't be offended as I'm an extremely sensitive and polite person, but are you desperate? and are you too ugly to find someone in similar social standing as yourself where you live? This person has "baggage filled" with 2 kids and two women, one who is used for "relaxation". Are you willing to risk being #3 and a past-time activity???

To continue your learning, read MainGirl's new thread .....

[Tallman1680]

I agree with MainGirl, you must be desperate!! he is just not doing it for the extra $ 3000. pesos but also to get in the sankie business with females or males in the same situation as you, just think about it before any moves or trips down there.

[mountainfrog]

Originally Posted by Aces_1605

.... I DO really like him and have been discussing with him to return to visit for a longer period of time.

Well, that's good.
Everything will now go its Caribbean way.


m'frog

[Aces_1605]

Thanks for the comments however

I am not desperate, fat or ugly!!! I too enjoyed my life during the period of three years we lost contact. And I do not fault him for dating/being with other women during the time apart. For all either one of knew we were never to see each other again.

I would think of him often but had no way to contact him. I almost think this was a second chance meeting and I need to take advantage of it. I watched him all week at the resort and he was always busy running around. ( he is the supervisor of animation) I didnt see him mingle with the guests as the rest of the staff did.

He hs never given me reason to doubt his intentions. I guess reading through these threads has put doubt in my head, but again, I don't want to punish him based on a majority.

My thoughts are to go and visit. He wants to take a week off so I can go with him Santo Domingo and see everyone we used hang around with. See his family ( who I met many years ago) and show me the house he has built since I last was there. I can't see any harm in this, but I am sure the rest of you will Life is way too short to not take advantage of the small gifts given to us. I have lost someone very close to me in the last year which has really made me re-think what is most important in life.

My mother always said "your heart wants what it wants...just make sure you want the same"

[Hillbilly]

Aces_1605:
I see that Shad in Toronto has pretty much said what I thought of saying when I saw that part about "relaxation". How can you possibly even think of getting serious with a man that uses women for "relaxation"....??? and produces children with them!!!

So, do you think those extra $100 dollars he is making go to the support of these children he is creating?

Now, seriously, do you really think he is interested in you or in your passport?
The hope of getting that foreign visa is what moved him to leave teaching, a pretty shi**y job in the DR, to go to Bavaro and work tourist women.

I would listen to Mainegirl...

HB

[DominicanScotty]

He mentioned the mother of his second child as not "love" just "relaxation".
Now just what the heck did that statement mean? Lay on a beach chair, this could be relaxing. Have a nice cold beer with friends, this too is relaxing. Make babies with a woman you do not even love? This is relaxing???

So, where will you fit in with this guy's plans? Love...or relaxation???