today was the day

[AnnaC]

Originally Posted by Chris

Well, is it going to be the Battle of the Boys! or the Battle of the Mothers

No Christa as much as I'd love to have Amity for a daughter in law I don't think a long distance relationship is in the cards right now.

All the best to your son.

[trina]

My heart is breaking for you. I know God has someone much better in store for a special and beautiful soul like yours...wish there was something I could do. Take care...

[AZB]

i am willing to sacrifice 10 chopas for one mainegirl.
Is that a deal or what?
AZB

[JRR]

Sorry to hear of your misfortune,,,,,or futune!

Here is something I found and have referred to for my daughter in the past and some friends. Taken from an old magazine article...sorry, can't remember where.

17 Warning Signs of a Bad Boyfriend

You know the guy you're thinking about marrying is wrong for you if he has no friends, your parents and siblings don't like him, and his credit history doesn't check out.
Sometimes the best words of wisdom don't come from academics or scientists with impressive titles and educational credentials. Sometimes the best advice comes from people who have been there and done that in the real world. Such is the case with a recent letter published in the syndicated Dear Abby advice column that listed 17 signs that your boyfriend is NOT the one you should marry.
A married woman who said her husband now wanted a divorce passed along these tips to Dear Abby for the not-yet-married. If you see these red flags, she advises you to dump the guy:

1. If your parents or siblings have doubts about him, pay attention. Listen and check it out.
2. If your intended has nothing good to say about his ex, beware. This is a pattern. Divorce is rarely only one person's fault.
3. If his children have nothing to do with him, do not believe him if he says his ex brainwashed them against him. My stepchildren have told me it was because they hated him, and they have good reasons.
4. Look closely at his credit and job history. They are sure predictors of what your life will be like.
5. If he's over 30 and has no money, do not let him move in with you, and don't marry him until he's financially solvent. If he has any respect for you (and himself), he'll insist on it.
6. Be sure in your heart that you can live with him AS IS. You cannot change another person.
7. This is a biggie: Beware if he has no friends. It is not true that they all chose to side with his ex.
8. If your friends dislike him, pay attention. This is also true if he hates your friends.
9. If he has more than one DUI and still drinks, run!
10. If he is one personality at work or with others and another person alone with you, run.
11. If he has nothing to do with his parents, investigate why. Don't take his word for it.
12. If he's an expert at everything and brags a lot, understand that he will turn off a lot of people, eventually maybe even you.
13. If he has sexual problems, go with him to a doctor before you marry him. Believe me, his problem will become your problem.
14. If he is emotionally or verbally abusive, it will only get worse. Yelling, name-calling and glowering are classic signs of an abuser.
15. If he is never wrong and never apologizes, everything will be "your fault" forever. And after years of hearing it, you may even start to accept the blame.
16. If he does something wrong and says, "That wouldn't have happened if you hadn't (fill in the blank)," that's another sign of an abuser.
17. And if he's mean to children, pets, or animals, recognize that he's pathological, and the next victim could be you.

[CyaBye3015]

Originally Posted by AZB

i am willing to sacrifice 10 chopas for one mainegirl.
Is that a deal or what?
AZB

AZB never knows when to keep his YAP shut!!!

mainegirl, you and I don't really know one another, we did meet one time a few years back at Rocky's, (I think Robert introduced us.)

A number of years ago I went through somewhat of a crisis. At that time a friend told me 'Whatever life deals you, if it doesn't kill you you'll be stronger for the experience.'

It may take some time, but you'll be fine.

Joe

[Larry]

MaineGirl,

I had to good fortune to meet you and think you are a winner. This is why I ask myself "why does this beautiful, bright young girl feel the need to be saddled down in a relationship"?

Forgive me if I am being too direct here.

You say you want to see the world and explore. Well, now is the best time to do it, ALONE! Relationships and family commitments complicate things.

Do what you want while you are young. Travel, explore, live.

Don't feel the need to share these experiences with someone. I am quite sure that eventually, your soul mate will find you.

Best of luck and hope to see you soon.

Larry

[CyaBye3015]

Originally Posted by Larry

MaineGirl,

I had to good fortune to meet you and think you are a winner. This is why I ask myself "why does this beautiful, bright young girl feel the need to be saddled down in a relationship"?

Forgive me if I am being too direct here.

You say you want to see the world and explore. Well, now is the best time to do it, ALONE! Relationships and family commitments complicate things.

Do what you want while you are young. Travel, explore, live.

Don't feel the need to share these experiences with someone. I am quite sure that eventually, your soul mate will find you.

Best of luck and hope to see you soon.

Larry

Perhaps we could sew AZB & Larry's lips together!!!

[Alyonka]

Originally Posted by Larry

You say you want to see the world and explore. Well, now is the best time to do it, ALONE! Relationships and family commitments complicate things.

Do what you want while you are young. Travel, explore, live.

Don't feel the need to share these experiences with someone. I am quite sure that eventually, your soul mate will find you.

Best of luck and hope to see you soon.

Larry

I totally agree. I did the same thing you did, Main girl - after a long time finally got out of any sort of relationship commitments besides the one I really enjoy - being with my son, and to tell the truth - this is the best thing that has happened to me lately! Freedom feels wonderful! Now I will finally have a chance to go to DR or any other place I want to go to without anyone questioning my actions!!!

[MommC]

Glad you got out before making the biggest mistake of your life (so you didn't make it!!).
I feel badly for the children involved as you were probably the best thing that has happened to them for a long time. How tragic to be saddled with a dead beat dad who apparently doesn't even show them that much affection.
As a teacher who loves children, that must be the worst part of the break-up for you.
Know that one day, when the time and person are 'right' you will marry and have beautiful children of your own to love and nuture.
In the meantime, enjoy what each day brings and follow your dreams.

(Too bad my sons are already taken! I'd have been thrilled to have such a special person as you for a daughter-in-law!)

[AZB]

I am with larry. he is 100% correct. let mainegirl have fun and lets hope she jumps out of this predicament and straighten her life out for better. I was also thinking that now she has all the opportunity to spend time in venezuela and DR. feel free to travel and not having to care for her boyfriend and his problems. She is loved by everyone in DR. she knows she has people who would open up their doors for her anyday in this country.
I say, give this girl some time and she will jump right back up. I have met mainegirl and I think she is an extremely charming lady. She will have no hard time in finding a much much better man than she even expects.
Now folks stop this soap opera and give her some time to herself to recollect her thoughts and re-establish her goals in life.
I personally think she should move down to DR and start a new life all over again. forget about men for a while and just live the life in peace.
AZB