my son's father is a deadbeat

[tk toronto]

Originally Posted by dv8

primo, kyle, i said it before, i say it again, it takes two to tango, why not say that men should keep their willies all zipped up?
secundo, tk, don't let me to toronto and chop your head off with a macheta. why do you have to make it "men are pigs" issue? sure, some of them are, but some women once hurt like that would behave like firts class bitches and turn the kid against the father, request sky-high payments every month...

i agree with boys on that, calico shoul be careful with what she tells her son about his daddy, it's bad enough as it is. but she should never stop fighting for her right to have a decent life, without financial struggle of a lonely mother.

good luck, calico. this country is all messed up, lets hope that the case can be settled by more strict american court!

Ummmm, that's why my post said "some men" if you choose to read properly, so relax and read carefully before you start making ASSumptions

[tk toronto]

Originally Posted by shadInToronto

She was a willing participant (perhaps a bit too eager). Do you know how soon after meeting this guy she was in the sack with him? do you know if he wanted kids in the first place? .... what do you know except the OP's side?

So many stories of women meeting "the love of their life" (he's different from the rest crap!!!!) during a 7 day vacation in the DR or in a night club, hops in the sack, gets pregnant and when their gem leaves start crying rivers of tears!!!! Yes, think twice before spreading your leags so soon!!!! Get to know whether he's a SOB or not!!!!

you don't know if what you're saying is the case, so why assume it's the way that you're saying. Just because I don't ASSume the worst in someone doesn't mean that I don't understand that there are two sides to the story. What she's asking for is advice, not ignorant people who think that they are the morals police

[tk toronto]

He needs to pay up either way, even if she did meet him after 7 days, IT IS STILL HIS CHILD THAT HE NEEDS TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR!

[Malibook]

Originally Posted by tk toronto

He needs to pay up either way, even if she did meet him after 7 days, IT IS STILL HIS CHILD THAT HE NEEDS TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR!

Of course he should pay up but the amount could vary greatly depending on many factors and it is not always easily agreed upon.

Once he is paying he is entitled to visitations and possibly joint custody.
He also deserves to see that the money is being spent on the child.

SOME mothers want the cash but they want to deny the father these basic rights.

There are times when the child would be better off in the father's custody and the mother should pay him support.

[Audra]

Originally Posted by Malibook

Of course he should pay up but the amount could vary greatly depending on many factors and it is not always easily agreed upon.

Once he is paying he is entitled to visitations and possibly joint custody.
He also deserves to see that the money is being spent on the child.

SOME mothers want the cash but they want to deny the father these basic rights.

There are times when the child would be better off in the father's custody and the mother should pay him support.

BUT, if the spouse claims no income on their income tax, they can get away without paying a dime.

Some women would rather not collect the child suppport so that they don't have to have the man in their child's life.

If the husband is a deadbeat, perhaps you should ask yourself if this is the type of role model you want in your childs life.

[Hillbilly]

I am sorry Calico, but I haven't seen you tell us where you live. If it is here in the DR you have enourmous resources at your disposal. If you live in the states, you also have serious legal recourse that cannot be bought off through bribes.

I would push this as fast and as far as it goes.

The little boy needs to know that his daddy loves him, no matter what. Try and not distort the boy's love of his father. I know it will be hard.....
Try and tell him that Daddy is going through a rough time right now but he will be coming by soon...etcetcetc ..at least try and keep up some relation...

tough situation, but you should come out winning.

HB

[mountainfrog]

Originally Posted by Malibook

...SOME mothers want the cash but they want to deny the father these basic rights....

And some make men pay for other men's children...

m'frog

[miguel]

Originally Posted by audrav

BUT, if the spouse claims no income on their income tax, they can get away without paying a dime.

Wrong yet again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

You do know that the Family Courts CAN force a deadbeat parent to get a job or be sent to jail, right?.

Where I live, here in "Alaska", deadbeat parents are POSTED in the newspapers, with warrants for their arrests, even those owing as little as 500 dollars!!.

[Ricardo900]

Originally Posted by miguel

Wrong yet again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

You do know that the Family Courts CAN force a deadbeat parent to get a job or be sent to jail, right?.

Where I live, here in "Alaska", deadbeat parents are POSTED in the newspapers, with warrants for their arrests, even those owing as little as 500 dollars!!.

There are cases when a "deadbeat" dad quits his higher paying job, to relocate in a different state and obtain a lower paid job and was denied by the courts when he filed a petition to lower his child-support payments.

[miguel]

Originally Posted by Ricardo900

There are cases when a "deadbeat" dad quits his higher paying job, to relocate in a different state and obtain a lower paid job and was denied by the courts when he filed a petition to lower his child-support payments.

Of course, but only when the Judge "sees" that the parent tried to play "sneaky" with the Court system. The worse thing a deadbeat parent can do is try to be a wise-ass with a Family Court Judge!. But:

When the deadbeat parent's salary "goes up", so does his their child support payments, but only if the other parents files a petition. And:

When the deadbeat parent's salary goes down, they can file a petition to have their child support payments reduced.

In my opinion, ALLLLLLLLLLL deadbeat parents should be sent to jail. If they are Dominican, they should be deported!.