my son's father is a deadbeat

calico katz · #1 10-22-2006, 11:01 PM

My son's father hasn't supported him in well over a year, and hasn't taken him on visits for a while either, which is fine by me because not getting child support really makes me mad. He says in DR men don't have to support their kids. Is it really that way? Do all Dominican men evade their responsibility? I have to be mom and dad to this child and I really think it is unfair, especially to my son. Any response from other dominican men would be appreciated.

AnnaC · #2 10-22-2006, 11:36 PM

He can say whatever he wants but there is a law in DR that can be enforced.

This quote is from a Dominican Lawyer

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fabio J. Guzman

Yes, your child has the right to receive support from his or her father (Articles 170 and 171 of Law #136-03 - "Codigo del Menor"). You can begin proceedings against him here in the Dominican Republic if he lives here.

Here's more to read on this subject

what are my rights?

child support

Hillbilly · #3 10-23-2006, 08:44 AM

I do believe that more men are arrested and jailed (short term, usually) for violation of the child support laws than any other crime.

Get a lawyer here to serve him papers that establish his responsability (contained in the divorce decree??) Or request child support if it wasn't. The judge will establish at least something.

HB

planner · #4 10-23-2006, 09:56 AM

I am curious. To the OP: are you here in the DR with your child?

To the board:

Does it make a difference if they live outside the country?

Does it make a difference if one parent is a foreigner?

Does it make a difference if they were married or not?

Enquiring minds want to know.......

Chirimoya · #5 10-23-2006, 10:19 AM

Unfortunately, non-payment of child support is quite common across all social classes here. All my divorced friends and relatives have had to deal with exes who simply don't pay, and they have the impossible dilemma of doing without the money, making do with less, or putting their children's father in jail.

One friend who fought a long legal battle to get her ex to pay up told fascinating tales from the tribunal waiting room, where she exchanged experiences with poor women who were struggling to get RD$500 a month, and in one case, the ex of a prominent businessman who was trying for hundreds of thousands of pesos per month. My friend was probably been being facetious, but apparently this monthly expense was justified by daily helicopter journeys to the child's private school in Puerto Rico. In a gold-plated helicopter, no doubt.

Joking aside, it is a serious problem for women in the DR.

miguel · #6 10-23-2006, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by calico katz

He says in DR men don't have to support their kids. Is it really that way? Do all Dominican men evade their responsibility? I have to be mom and dad to this child and I really think it is unfair, especially to my son. Any response from other dominican men would be appreciated.

Actually, he meant to say "pricks like me don't have to support their kids".

Yes, MOST Dominican men evade their responsabilities.

Where did you find this "keeper"?.

Chiri:

Your post is RIGHT ON!!. This is a very serious problem for women in the DR.

yoma · #7 10-23-2006, 12:28 PM

Miguel: It bothers me that you're criticizing the OP about where she found this guy. She's trying to do right for her child even though obviously she made a mistake with her son's father- so why do you have to bring it up? The OP is asking for help, not cricitism.

miguel · #8 10-23-2006, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by yoma

Miguel: It bothers me that you're criticizing the OP about where she found this guy. She's trying to do right for her child even though obviously she made a mistake with her son's father- so why do you have to bring it up? The OP is asking for help, not cricitism.

I, for one, do not care one bit if you are bothered or not since I was not criticizing the OP, even though she choose the loser!.

Do you know what a question is?.

dv8 · #9 10-23-2006, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by yoma

Miguel: It bothers me that you're criticizing the OP about where she found this guy. She's trying to do right for her child even though obviously she made a mistake with her son's father- so why do you have to bring it up? The OP is asking for help, not cricitism.

miguel's "wher did you find this keeper" was nothing but sarcastic, no criticizm in here! if anything miguel showed sympathy.

trying to avoid paying for the kid is common for all the a**holes around the world, one thing that make sit more difficult here is that women are too submissive or too proud.

calicokatz, go for this a**, be like a pitbull that never loses the grip, DON'T LET HIM GET AWAY WITH IT!!! don't let him think he can forget about you and the child, make him PAY.

do not forget, this is your right.

calico katz · #10 10-23-2006, 01:40 PM

You can critcize me if you want, I've been kicking myself in the rear ever since. We met , because we lived in the same town in US, And he was very sweet-What a sucker I am. Any ways, We have been in court a few times, and I filed contempt in September. He did not show, and it was a capias- a bench warrant. The only thing now, The court will wait another six months to arrest him, and then they will only make him get a job, probation, etc. My son is 3 years old, and he used to ask for his father, but now he just says he has a bad daddy.