Feedback requested - sweet talkers or not ?

Toronto Girl 11 · #1 10-24-2006, 10:57 AM

Hello Everyone,

It's a very cold morning here in Toronto...but my RD trip is soon approaching.. :P

Quick question:
I am currently dating a Dominicano from Sousa.I met him up here about 3 months ago. Obviously, he had a girl who brought him from RD to Toronto but they were living common-law and they both have split up now.
I reviewed the other posts and observed that most of the advise shows that if a man asks you to marry him after a few days he could be a possible sankie...Well, this guy i have been dating has asked me to marry him and to have kids with him and live with him. Is this normal in the Dominican culture?

Oh, we have gone out on many dates and he has always pays for everything. He states that a woman should never have to use her money on a man.
He makes good money here in Toronto but it's really weird how fast dominicanos move. Always quick to say i love you, i want you....It's crazy. Do you guys ever slow down?

I love to live for the moment but i have to think about those big decisions........

Please comment..I'm very interested to see the feedback....

TG 11

Audra · #2 10-24-2006, 11:00 AM

Does hes have his Canadian Citizenship?

Maybe, that's what he needs. Why did he break up with his original girlfriend?

How long have you been dating?

Seems to be the trend here, always in a rush - why???

AnnaC · #3 10-24-2006, 11:09 AM

I'd like to know how the girl brought him to Toronto. Maybe he is still married.

I'm going to close your other thread because it's the same thing.

Toronto Girl 11 · #4 10-24-2006, 11:21 AM

Audrav/ Anna C:

He has his Permanent Resident Card and will be applying for his Canadian Citizenship in September 2007. He's legal here in Canada and he doesn't "need" me to help him with his papers.

He broke up with his common-law wife because she was previously married to another man whilst they lived together. Appraently, in Canada you can still be common law and be entitled to all the benefits of a real marriage....

We have been dating for about 3 months......but it's been a very different relationship for me.........

As previously mentioned, he makes good money up here but he always talks about it.....I find this quite trange as we don't really talk about how much money we have up here in toronto. Is this a cultural ? or personal attribute?

Please ask more questions......

Alyonka · #5 10-24-2006, 11:27 AM

All men like talking about money. It makes them feel more "macho" to be able to make money. If he is so fast to say "love", "marriage" - it does not mean that you have to be this way - he might be testing you. Be yourself, do not go for his prompts, do and say what you feel is right for you. These men like to test women for morals and stability. Don't fall for his "sweet" talk - show him that you are a serious person with stable views and values - he will respect you for that.

AnnaC · #6 10-24-2006, 11:28 AM

Honey you need to check the immigration laws of Canada. Unless he is a well to do Dominican his chance of getting a permanent residency card with no one's help are very slim. What kind of work did he do in DR? That will give you a clue as to how he got here.

Audra · #7 10-24-2006, 11:28 AM

None of my business, do you consider what he makes ($$) to be good?

How old is he?

Where did you meet?

Bottom line is, how do you feel about him? If you think there is something strange about him, there probably is. Find out what is bothering you most about him and the relationship ask him about it and see what he says.

I can never understand the rush to get married so quickly, unless the clock is ticking, but that normally comes from the women's side.

shadInToronto · #8 10-24-2006, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Toronto Girl 11

Hello Everyone,

It's a very cold morning here in Toronto...but my RD trip is soon approaching.. :P

Quick question:
I am currently dating a Dominicano from Sousa.I met him up here about 3 months ago. Obviously, he had a girl who brought him from RD to Toronto but they were living common-law and they both have split up now.
I reviewed the other posts and observed that most of the advise shows that if a man asks you to marry him after a few days he could be a possible sankie...Well, this guy i have been dating has asked me to marry him and to have kids with him and live with him. Is this normal in the Dominican culture?

Oh, we have gone out on many dates and he has always pays for everything. He states that a woman should never have to use her money on a man.
He makes good money here in Toronto but it's really weird how fast dominicanos move. Always quick to say i love you, i want you....It's crazy. Do you guys ever slow down?

I love to live for the moment but i have to think about those big decisions........

Please comment..I'm very interested to see the feedback....

TG 11

Cold nights fast approaching here in the Great White North, gotta find a 'hot Dominican' to replace the electric blankie!!!???

You have to ask yourself, why did they split after she obviously expended time and money to get him here? if he's making good money, what type of job is he doing and have you seen where he works? is he a U of T grad in Computer Science and is now at RIM? ... just a hunch, I suspect he's plying the sankie trade here in the land of plenty (potential victims).

The signs are pointing towards a sankie - capital investment, quick with flattery, marriage and kids, lots of promises ... you know that adage, once a sankie always a sankie!!!!

Toronto Girl 11 · #9 10-24-2006, 11:37 AM

Thanks for all the responses...

As for me i'm not in a rush to get married nor have kids.

As per your questions audrav:

1. I do consider his salary ok for Canada standards. It's nearly as comparable as mine.
2. He's 30yrs old ( and he told me that he has no kids). Please!!! He even swore on his family. His family will kill him if they found out what he did......
3. I met him through one of my (girl) friends.
4. I know what bothers me about him..he's always comparing me to Dominicanas living in R.D. It's very frustrating. I told him he should bring one of them up here and live happily ever after but it's weird, he only wants to date a Dominicana but never marry one.....WHY? Probaly because they know all their lies.....

shadInToronto · #10 10-24-2006, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Avrora

All men like talking about money. It makes them feel more "macho" to be able to make money. If he is so fast to say "love", "marriage" - it does not mean that you have to be this way - he might be testing you. Be yourself, do not go for his prompts, do and say what you feel is right for you. These men like to test women for morals and stability. Don't fall for his "sweet" talk - show him that you are a serious person with stable views and values - he will respect you for that.

ALL women like to spend money!!!! it makes them feel superior that they can spend all that money while sitting on their a$$ while their hard working husbands go out to earn a living to provide for his family ....